That's the million dollar question, isn't it, Mary? Anyone think "wanting to talk to the elders this week" could be a trap?
The day after Valentine's
by JimmyPage 15 Replies latest jw friends
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Mary
Anyone think "wanting to talk to the elders this week" could be a trap?
Uh....yep. And I doubt that they're going to only talk to you about 'fornication'. Any chance your wife has told them what you really think of the Organization???
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JimmyPage
I asked her if she had talked to anyone about what we discussed and she said no. I don't think she's aware of "theocratic warfare" but with this cult it's always good to be wary.
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carla
She wants to discuss your private sex life with other men? I know that isn't how she would look at it, they are spiritual leaders (oh puke, I can hardly write that) but what if they were women? would she appreciate you going into every blessed detail with some women?! "and then I, then she did.... then I ....." sick. Cannot jw's not see how distubing this is? I thought jw's were supposed to be opposed to porn? Verbal porn is still voyerism especially with the woman sitting right in front of them to fantasize about. what about the elders who ask questions? I know, they not only need intimate details right down to color of underwear but need to find out if all this was also done with 'greed'. And if you believe that......
Hard to believe after all these years on the boards I can still be so utterly disgusted with jw's.
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drew sagan
My thoughts are that she feels your instability in "the truth" comes from those "sins". Thus, confessing them may clear up things, bring "Jehovah's Sprit" back to the both of you and then everything will be OK.
From what you have written here, I really think this is most likely. Many JWs walk around with guilt, thinking that things do not go right for them because the "broke the rules" at some peroid in time. If they just get that cleared up officially, God will then begin to bless them.
I don't really know where you can go with this. You can humor your wife, yet that will bring pain. You can try to explain to her the pointless nature discussions with Elders bring forth, but she will ignore it. You can say you don't believe in the process at all and she will cry.
However you deal with the situation, I would say that realizing her desire for "cleanliness" before God will be of the most value. You possibly may begin to push the idea that she doesn't need forgiveness from anybody but God, or something like that. Try and get her to talk about exactly what she hopes will happen. Letting her openly talk about WHY she wants to do this meeting. She may just talk herself out of it. Try not to argue and/or give your own input. Just ask tons of quesitons about what she thinks will happen and why it would be a benefit.
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skeeter1
To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.
William Shakespeare