A couple of weeks ago I had the opportunity to enjoy breakfast with my younger son, 30. He hasn't been to meetings in over 2 years and I was able to help him move in with his girlfriend,22, not a jw a month or so earlier. He'hasn't been df'd, as of yet for that , although I know that there are probaby those who have the opportunity to do him in. I really don't know yet whether he is happy in his new lfe, but I do know that he still holds the desire to some day go back.
As of yet, I haven't taken the time to tell him the truth about the jw's but it is a chance that may push him over the edge either for the wtbts or against me. As I have related before that since his mother's and mine divorce I have been trying very hard to once again have a sincere and open relationship with him. It has been touchy, seeing as how my ex has done her best in the past to fill his ears with who knows what about our past life. I do know that he does see me in a differant light these days. Positive light.
Anyways, at that breakfast he told me that my Ex and my older son's wife were going to be having dinner together that evening with his GIRLFRIEND! I shuddered to think what that would produce. He told me that they were just going to tell her how his relationship with her was hindering his mother from talking to him and having a relationship with him. More jw crap. CONDIONAL LOVE at its' best.
Last evening my wife and I went to dinner with my son and his girlfriend.I have to tell you that she has her head scewed on right for her age. While my son went to the bathroom my wife asked her how the dinner with my Ex went. Well, you guessed right. The usual jw speak. She didn't have much time to say anything, but she did say that it made her mad and would NOT waste 4 years in a relationship with him if down the road he decided to go back to that crap. Smart cookie this lttle girl.
My wife told her to feel free to call her and chat if she needed. Now, I don't mind that one bit. My wife is a forthright gal and says it how it is. Myself, I have to walk on eggshells and try not to interfere, or answer me this.......Should I ?????
My son has always been mama's boy. He isn't very strong when it comes to his mother as she always lays on the guilt trip to him. You all know the jargon here. Cult speak, being destroyed, yada yada.
What, if anything should I say or do?????
NMG