by JimmyPage 11 Replies latest jw friends
You need a babysitter so your wife gets one from the congregation.
But your cong is so eaten up with the "pioneer spirit" that they don't stay home to watch the child- instead they go traipsing about all over creation out in service, confining the child to a car all morning.
It is so hard to find a dub who has sense enough to just stay home on a cold morning!
Can anybody else relate?
so eaten up with the "pioneer spirit" that they don't stay home to watch the child- instead they go traipsing about all over creation out in service, confining the child to a car all morning.
Does it count if the "babysitter" is your mom?
Actually, those were pretty good times. I liked the coffee breaks... And we got lots of exercise!
You don't actually pay for this sort of babysitting do you?! In my mind a babysitter plays with the child, reads to them, feeds, changes, and lulls them to sleep if necessary. If Barney or some show is a regular in the childs life then that would be ok but otherwise the tv is off and the babysitter earns their money by spending time with the child. Riding around in a car hardly counts as spending time with a child. Poor thing.
If you have not given permission for your children to leave the house with the babysitter, it is kidnapping, is it not? Whose vehicle was being used? If it was your vehicle, there's also a possible charge of Grand Theft Auto if you did not give permission for her to take a JW joyride in your car. If it was someone else's car, how were your young children secured in child safety seats? Are they not REQUIRED by LAW to be in car seats up to a certain age when they are passengers in a vehicle for personal use? Does she have a key to your house? If not, did she leave your home unlocked and vulnerable to robbery while she was out in service?
There are just so many potential issues involved with her leaving the house with the children without your permission, and significant risks to your children, that you have to address them immediately and put a stop to this insanity.
If you are paying for babysitting services, it is highly unethical for the babysitter to remove the children from the home for activities in the babysitter's personal interests. It is YOUR responsibility and YOUR WIFE'S responsibility to provide religious education and training to YOUR CHILDREN, not HERS. If you are not paying, then I'd say you're getting what you pay for.
I'd make it crystal clear if you decide to use that sitter again: She is NOT to leave your home with your children (unless the house is on fire, obviously), nor is she to bring people into your home (ie, Bible Studies) while she is WORKING for you. Get a safe and put the spare car and house keys inside - she should not have a key to your house, nor should she have the keys to your car - you are asking for an insurance nightmare if she gets into an accident with your car or leaves the house unlocked and something bad happens.
Call her out ...I pay you to 'sit'... watch my child and watch my home. Ya cant do that while your touring the countryside can ya!
But then you would be an ass.........
Hill
In a nearby congregation we have a young mother, pioneer super zealot. Her baby (now about 21/2) has been dragged out in service everyday of her life. One day they stopped by here to use the bathroom on a school snow day day no less. She said I have to get back to the car. I followed her out to the car and the baby was sick with a cold and she left the van door open and the wind was blowing on her chapped snotty little face. I used to go in mid week service, that's really where all the kooks are, and I would have to beg for a break to feed the baby or change him. They were always encouraging me to take him out of the car seat and take care of him in a moving car. Or they would say "He's going to have to learn" Learn what he's 9mos old?! Or they would always get car sick If they got over heated. One brother who I was related to was always too cheap to turn the AC on and sure enough I would have a lap full of vomit on me before 1000am. I am so sorry for some of the things I did to my kids. By they way I would never let one of these wack jobs take my kid out in service.
Babies out in service in the hot Aussie summer....how stupid someone should call child services....total bullcrap...red babies in hot cars.
The comments on this thread make me feel slightly ill and ever so glad we don't put our children through it anymore.
When we were young and having babies our congregation was full of other young parents . For a small hall around 80 publishers we had at one time 50 kids under the age of five . Mid week service was crazy trying to make up rural car groups with that many car seats ! More than once I offered to stay back and babysit instead of cramming into a station wagon with to many kids .
When my first child was born my husband's zealot step brother came over and tried to talk me into pioneering with his wife and six month old baby . He figured your a stay at home mom no reason not to pioneer . They were appalled at the idea that I wanted my baby on a schedule and taking naps in his own bed ! It caused a riff between us from then on I was not good association for them because I did not share their pioneer goals ....even though I was totally active ,just not up to their standards . BUT I was good enough to babysit their children when they wanted to take off and do unassigned territory for a week .
No way would I allow a witness babysit my child out in field service !
do unassigned territory
Is that the new JW code-speak for "we haven't had sex in six months and we'll go out of our minds if we don't"?
