My husband hopes I'm not home if the Elders ever make a Sheparding call ..

by troubled mind 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    Made me feel kind of bad ...He blames me for fading and doing what I want ,because it is now reflected on him .

    Several witnesses work at the same place as he does, and one of them has been talking BS about him . One of his friends told him straight up to be careful what he says around one certain witness because he'll use anything against you . My husband asked "Why, am I suppose to be a bad person now since I no longer attend meetings ?" His friend said " I guess so . According to the witness guy you are the worst of christians now because you put up a christmas tree , go to another church ,and celebrate other holidays ." My husband replied " And I guess it doesn't matter all of that is untrue " Which is true HE doesn't do those things .....I DO .

    Now I guess he is nervous if the Elders ever show up I will tell them were to go !

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    You know honestly I DON"T feel that bad . Is it wrong of me ? Because I know what I do does reflect on him and I still do what I want . I think it is their problem (the elders ) that they never took the time to find out my husband still believes alot of their crap .He just doesn't want to deal or face doing anything on his own . Really his problem is he doesn't want to face the fact how unhappy he was as a witness and actually go through he trouble of researching the real truth on his own .

  • Octarine Prince
    Octarine Prince

    Sounds more like his problem than yours.

    If he wants to salvage what's left of his life, he has to go ahead and man up about this.

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    I wish he could "man up " as you say about this . The thing is he is so much more happier now that he quit going to meetings . He is involved in sports again and in hobbies he really enjoys . Even our kids have noticed how talkative , and in tune to the family he is now . He use to be so depressed all the time and never talked to anyone ......WHY doesn't he see the difference ? and realize it is because he is out of the cult mentality .

  • mrsjones5

    Then maybe it's would help to just focus on the good stuff happening now and when he talks about the negative reactions he's getting from others bring him back to the good...the less stress, the fun, enjoying the family. He might get to a point of just not caring what they think.

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    Good Point mrsjones ! I think I will try to have him focus on the positives and just not worry about the other . thanks , got to go to work now talk to you all later

  • Tired of the Hypocrisy
    Tired of the Hypocrisy

    It is all his fault. The jw's view a sinking family like the admiralty views a sinking ship....The Captain is to blame for anything that went wrong. Now the idea behind head-shit comes to light. Placing absolute blame for something on an absolute individual. What happened to the two are one flesh? LOL

    I am the blamed one in my family and my wife dreads me being here if the elders come around, because I have been known to grab them by the collar and drag them to the door.....

  • jamiebowers

    It is all his fault. The jw's view a sinking family like the admiralty views a sinking ship....The Captain is to blame for anything that went wrong.

    That is exactly correct, and it is only another mind control tactic. It should probably be brought to your husband's attention in an attempt to reinforce the fact that you, he, and your kids were in a CULT.

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