To my friends-

by ashitaka 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • ashitaka
    ashitaka

    I don't want to spam, but I just wanted to post one more topic tonite. I was reading Bridgette's post, and was moved, but not just because of what she said...Mommy made a comment about us being friends here, and you know what...I feel that way too.

    Sometimes, even though I have a wife who left the JW's with me, I feel so damn isolated and alone, that I'm the only strong one among a bunch of children, who all fight and tear at each other....this is one place I feel semi-normal again.

    It's so HARD to befriend people now. I have so much trouble talking to people and interacting socially with people, although I've been told I'm agreeable to be around.

    I don't know, I'm exhausted from thinking. I echo some of Bridgette's sentiment. Thank you guys for being kind to me, even though you don't know me-in fact we have never, and probably never will meet face to face.

    Thank you.

    ashi

  • josephus
    josephus

    hi

    ive never knowingly replied to you, but in future i will,

    if for no other reason than in case you say stuff like that again.

    cheers bud.

    josephus

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    Hey ashi,I like this place too...OUTLAW

  • wallaby jack
    wallaby jack

    please forgive joseafish, he's irish ya know.

    unc, who knowingly replied to you once or twice ;)

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    (((((ashi and wife))))))

    Andi

  • waiting1
    waiting1

    Hey ash,

    And now you know why I, and other oldtimers like me, stick around here. Kinda grows on you, eh?

    Take care and be careful.

    waiting

  • Tina
    Tina

    ((((((ashi and Mrs.))))))))))))
    There is a bonding that happens here. Because who else knows better than another exJW or one who has studied and is familiar with them,what the issues are. The particular pain,mostly policy based by he WTS that we have/are gone thru.

    The guy on the street,who has no knowledge of this cult,who's thinking is based on reality,reason and logic,in my experience,can't understand what we are talking about most of the time.
    Don't get me wrong,there are some insightful compassionate folks out there. I have met these too. Just really few who can get a grasp on what we went thru.

    There is a lot of info out there.But not a lot of it,unless written by a former member) explains the true craziness,the weird nuances.
    Many of us come out of the org. w/ social skill deficits. They weren't taught or modeled to us. Especially those who grew up in the cult. But the good news(ack lol) is that can be rectified. Takes time,effort help,courage to take some social risks.
    I beleive this is a good place to begin re-learning interacting w/ others. ack,I ramble. I must go find Bridgettes post,she's so insightful.

    Just want to say I understand where you're coming from and your feelings Ashi. I'm glad you're hangin around with us,become part of the family here. At the end of the day,it's about people,helping sharing crying laffing fighting together as we try to get on with the business of life. love and hugs to you and Mrs.Tina

    Vive Bene
    Spesso L'amore
    Di Risata Molto!!!

  • JerryTX
    JerryTX

    Hey Ash,

    I'm glad you're on this board. I know what you mean about it being hard to befriend people after what you've been through in the Borg, but this board is a good place to *re-learn* making friends in a healthy environment as opposed to having friends that share a foundation of a cult mindset. There's a lot of diversity here, fun here, and love and caring. There are people on this board that have pulled stuff out of me I have never told anybody before. That has been a healing experience for me that's been profound. I like 'em and I trust them implicitely.

    And I want a fellow film fanatic like myself here!

    JerryTX/formerly megadude

    "People handle their fear of change in different ways, but the fear is inescapable if we are in fact to change."
    M. Scott Peck (The Road Less Traveled)

  • Ranchette
    Ranchette

    Ashi,
    I consider many people here to be my friends and you are one of them.

    I know it seems hard and intimidating but there are alot of ways to make new friends.

    Some people use Church. (Not me)

    There are many non religious ways to make friends,
    you can start with your neighbors.

    Every county in the USA has a county extension office and they coordinate many community clubs.
    They have clubs for men and women and co-ed clubs.
    They can help you get connected with the community.
    I have had wonderful experience here.

    Also people with hobbies can connect over the net or other ways.
    Bikers, Atv riders, etc...

    Don't be afraid to meet people.
    Most of them don't bite

    I don't know if you have kids but if you do then get involved at the schools.

    Check your email.

    Ranchette

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    Ashi,

    I totally empathize with the feeling -- hard to get going socially upon exiting the Borg. I found help with my sister and a childhood friend who happens to be an ex-JW. It doesn't take a whole bunch of people to start making a differnence in your life, only 1 or 2 can get the ball rolling.

    Best wishes, thanks for your friendship too and hope to see you out here for a long time to come.

    GopherWhy shouldn't truth be stranger than fiction? Fiction, after all, has to make sense.
    Mark Twain (1835-1910)

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