Oh, sit tight... I need to tell you a bit of background first...
Oh, about 12/13 years ago, when I was still in, I became friends with a little crowd of dubs that were new to our area and cong. They were quite a liberal bunch - certainly the most liberal I had ever come across and although they were striving for priviledges etc, they got up to a lot of naughty sh!t and definitly committed DFable offences. Well I wasn't exactly innocent either... I was just relieved to have come accross likeminded friends that my parents wouldn't get on my case about. I guess what it boils down to is that they/we were all super hypocrites.
Anyways, around the same time, I started dating my future hubby ('wordly') and as we got more serious, I got more and more tired of the charade that we were putting up and the pressure on me for dating a worldly boy and I moved out of home and just stopped going to meetings altogether. My friendship with this crowd lost a bit steam as Nick and I created our new life together, but I have kept in touch occasionally over the years with one of the couples. Earlier this year, I heard that the husband had been DFed - I guess his past caught up with him. At around the same time, his Dad died and not long after, they were expecting a baby and the wife had a miscarriage.
I have been in touch via facebook with this couple, and somehow made plans to get together in the next few days. I know them as the super hypocrites that they were and although the husband is now DFed, I know that he is trying to get reinstated because of the pressure of losing his family at such a sad time. His mother, newly widowed wont talk to him at all. His only communication with his briother is related to business. His wife is under loads of pressure as she is depressed and not coping well after the miscarriage.
So, the things is, if we do see them now, how do I deal with my opinions about the dubs. I have always been frank and open with them. I feel like I need to say something, but I dont know whether I should. On the one hand, I believe that if they just stopped to think about things, they would be out in flash, but on the other, maybe I should mind my own business.
I feel this weird need or desire to help other people out of the borg!!!