Awakened: Even if she talks to the elders, they are NOT authorized to encourage separation or even say that about a mate. I know as an ex-elder. That's a big no-no...
While you are technically correct, I can use my own example to demonstrate that oompa might not be off base. My father is the Presiding Overseer of the congregation I grew up in, but he and my mother actively and repeatedly encouraged my wife to separate from me on the grounds of "Spiritual Endangerment". She would come home bawling her eyes out, but wouldn't explain why.
When I finally found out what was going on, I called my dad and informed him that if he or any of the elders or my mother or any other JW ever again breathed a suggestion like that to my wife I would be happy to sue the perpetrators on the tort of Alienation of Affection, but that was surely a very uneasy test of my relationship with my wife.
Oompa, she may just be very scared right now. That will subside.