In 1984, we were attending a cong that had a lot of family members and old friends that made up the body of elders. An elder that I knew and had befriende from our last cong had moved into this cong about 6 months before we did. The elders dragged their feet in re-appointing him there, as they were all GOOD OLE BOYS. Anyways, the co forced them to re-appoint him, and this happened just before we moved to this cong.
Well, we redeveloped the relationship we had with him and his wife. She was very attractive, blonde, blue eyed cute figure. He was very high profile , 6ft 2, well built and well chiseled. They were both very high maintenance. They had 3 kds, boy at the time was 10, daughter was 8 another son was 5.
Well, what happened next no one saw coming. All of a sudden his wife and kids were GONE!!! MIA. It turned out that he had been physically and mentally abusing his wife all their married life. The lder son was beaten up regularly.
Well, he finally went too far and beat her up and then kicked her when she was down on the floor. She packed up the kids and moved out west to her parents home. He was ONLY privately reproved and deleted as an elder. The GOOD OLE BOYS had a field day over that, told ya so kinda thingy.
She divorced him and never came back to this state. A couple years later he got a worldy girlfriend and then he got DF'd over that. She was married and her husband commited suicide over her. The former elder brought his hotsy girl friend into the borg. He had never been re-appointed as he is still scripturally the husband of 2 wives, his ex has never remarried.
There's alot more to this story but for confidentiality purposes I will remain silent.