I was wondering how I fell from a place of almost reaching stability into one of spiralling decline without any stopping it?
The unending decline is mainly to do with friendship groups of family I think - and a shunning psychology accepted as standard even though all my kids are now non JW?
Like my children have developed friendship groups absent my inclusion and so I get discussed and being an exJW values are establishedbetween them without them ever realising I had moved on major league in my heart and mind!
I have lain down and died so many times in a show of patience and understanding - truly and without question for longer than I care to recall bearing - but to zero effect!
So thoughts are levelled against and responses are not believed and friends are included who would never ordinarilly get into close family networks - like they aren't privy to the family situations who are getting interested in them for example! And since all mychildren are on the out - mum is in and absolutely zero communication occurs so the kids are a law unto themselves and the circles of friends who at times are manipulating them as if they are a soulmate! I'm sure some have best intentions but 3rd or 4th hand chat never is on cue and obviously if only 1 gets in JW land it is better than fat zero!!
The lowdown is that everyones perception of everyone is flawed and no amount of straight talk is believed and everyone goes on doing things in their own isolated way and then when isolation becomes an issue the parent gets the rap again!
So I am in a no win situation whether I have tried or given up and it has happened coutless times and with so much baggage that relationships are utterly void of clarity and directness! All manner of 'I know why and what your thinking and what your trying to control etc.
Never in all my days did I expect to come to this farmyard full of invisible bullshit on a conveyor belt from planet arsehole!
So I quit or keep taking it!
And trust me I am fairly long winded when it comes to taking shit but I am well passed browned off!
Not only that but I am now severely damaged goods!
So what I could have sorted at the end of each of the last 5 years has eroded till there's little I can do even if I was given some opportunity for the sake of a families future together!
It is a nuke!!