Pseatle2
I know where you're comin from but you'd be amazed how this guy likely feels everday there's somethin he should be told and nobody will! Likely he's even pissed more at the 'honest' band of brothers for not telling him as he is at his woman whom he suspects.
His problem is that nobody is allowing him to be himself because he detects (how can it not be sensed in some of the misaligned interactions?) many odd feelings but due to his intent on being true to his God and the Bible is unable to allow himself to walk out based on a hunch (which will likely eventually bring him down somehow) because of all the indoctrination in his head!
His hunch could be wrong right? And she maybe likely be the sort to deny if there's one witness to whatever? So he needs true friends who care, trust and value his heart enough to let him know - even anonymously and very politely the details they are aware of - he is trapped in his situation that he senses is wrong for however many years it takes! May even ruin him coz I can't believe his sixth sense isn't eating him away day by day and he half knows others don't care about him as an individual which is a double whammy!
Sometimes even people you grew up in the same house with know more about your own life than you do and won't tell you for some pisspoor excuse they give themselves and their sense of humour!
Maybe they all follow that book, 'How to NOT help a person get in touch with themselves!' - which is all the more difficult when in a religion doing exactly the same!