another quote from the book
But when I'm done wrong by someone, I'm not above putting that person on the rack in my mind, you know? I rage against the misdeed by devising all kinds of responses and reactions that would dissipate my anger, but it's all in imaginary form. Then I become sorry for the thoughts and contemplate forgiveness.
In this life of mine i can't recall any situation in which forgiveness hasn't ultimatley been the settlement. However, getting to forgiveness hasn't neccesarily been a rapid transition. Still, I level out with most such relationships at least cleansed of the rancor, if not intact. And I live better with the situation even if a relationship is altered irreparably in some ways.