Your votes decided: Farewell party for a dub was total dud (of a JWD story)

by OnTheWayOut 6 Replies latest jw friends

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Here was the thread I invited you all to vote on: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/143406/1.ashx

    So, I went to the Farewell party for my wife's best friend. It was a small affair, not the entire congregation
    like I expected. Only one elder came, he was so late that I had already eaten. Another elder's wife
    came, but her husband did not. I doubt that either was trying to avoid me. The only uncomfortable
    moment was when the hostess throwing the party was ready to serve dinner. Only two men had
    arrived, me and another JW who was "marked" a few years ago. He was active, but marked. I was
    inactive, but not marked. Clearly, he was going to offer the prayer, but she felt so awkward asking him
    in front of me. It's a good thing she did ask him, because I would never have offered it. The normal
    JW thing would have been for her to ask him in the kitchen just before doing it in front of everyone.

    The hostess had an UBM who stayed away from the whole party in the other part of the house. He
    was watching the Cubs forget to show up for the playoffs. After I ate, I joined him.

    The JW's were all very friendly to me, nobody trying to pry. No shunning or the like. They were letting
    their own selves out, and just being normal people. Nobody tried to spoil the mood with theocratic talk
    of any seriousness. Sorry I don't have any better story here, just a non-story.

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    OTWO,

    I'd put this under the "no news is good news" category. You were there and so supported Mrs. OTWO.

    Our ex-JW meetup was fun on Saturday. I hope you can make the Illinois one in November.

  • changeling
    changeling

    You did the "right thing. Good for you!

    changeling

  • Hortensia
    Hortensia

    occasionally they can act like humans, glad it wasn't an ordeal. Hope the food was good!

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Thanks ladies, and Gopher.

    "no news is good news"

    Yes. I have to start being worried, though. The wife is trying to make me a social
    witness. Without saying it, she's hoping it will get me back in line. HA.
    I am content to be a non-social person when it comes to the JW's.

  • Sad emo
    Sad emo

    Glad the party went ok OTWO.

    I'll possibly get totally flamed for saying this but, reading your post and subsequent reply, do I detect an air of you expecting something 'spectacularly witnesslike' to happen - and when it doesn't, you're just a little disappointed??

    She's your wife, regardless of any perceived motives, she's still your wife. As long as you keep 'we are here as husband and wife' at your heart, wherever she takes you, that will be all that should matter. If you go along with 'she's just trying to get me back inside' at your heart, you may end up being unconsciously defensive, not enjoying yourself (or the company of your wife for that matter) and coming across to others as anti-social rather than non-social.

    No offence intended, just offering some food for deeper thought maybe.

    kay, I'm running for cover now lol!

  • ex-nj-jw
    ex-nj-jw

    You supported your wife and it wasn't awefull. I say you did the right thing.

    nj

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