Hello Tina,
I hope that you are well too and I enjoyed hearing your tale of survival, thank you for relating it.
Can you clarify this for me? Was it just my cong? Can anyome just walk back into a cong after afew years like nothing happened? With no study w/ the elders or one appointed by them?
The strange fact is that you can if you know the game. Arms will be flung around you, spontaneous slobbery kisses, numerous invites out to eat etc. I genuinely believe that JW's do sincerely love people, at least at first!
After a few weeks things settle and there may be an attempt or two to entice you on service or to attend a few 'get-togethers'. The elders will mention how nice it is to see you, discuss you in minute detail at the elders meeting, assign sombody, who you may be seen to be getting along with to 'help' you. If you make it clear at this stage that you are happy just doing what you are doing, you will be left alone to inhabit the back rows and providing you do not answer up at the meetings very much and adopt a low profile, you will be left alone until you die. If you are mousy and have a blendable face it is so much easier. Given our shared national heritage which I am sure in both our cases brings with it a natural beauty! and a large personality Tina, it would be tough for people like you and I to do much blending though!
In theory the answer to your question is yes, if you have no demerits (DF or DA ) you can go back on your own terms and pretty much be left alone if you so wish. Most elders breath a sigh of relief when a publisher asks to be left alone, it saves them much work.
I remember around 12 years ago a female JW from a local congregation telephoned me in distress as one particular elder was continually trying to 'shepherd' her. I told her to tell him firmly and confidently, 'No thank you XXXX, I am fine without one'. She was never visited again!
Kindest regards - HS