I really and truly believe that my father did not abuse either of my two younger sisters, just me. My one sister was abused by my brother, which makes me think he was abused so as to act like that.
I left the JW's after finding he could get responsibilities again and because I realised that I would always be viewed as bad association no matter how hard I tried because I just didn't fit in.
I never wanted to take it any further than the congregation because I did not want to rip my family apart.
BUT if I had a child I would not let him alone with them.
Can someone just abuse one victim (maybe two if my bro was abused as I think he was)? Or do they always abuse more?
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Of course you are not dumb! Naive maybe but not dumb.
If you really want to understand the mind of an abuser you have to do your research, plenty has been written about the subject and a lot of studies have been done. You'll have to draw your own conclusion.
My concern is that the abuser gets away with the crime when he has silenced his victim. This is where your responsibility comes into play. You are correct beyond all doubt to NEVER leave a child alone with him, I would take it one step further and NEVER let him know I had a child to begin with.
Oh back to the silence, you must speak out about it to your other family members if you've not already. Talk frankly with your sisters and forget about ripping your family apart his actions did that and if you don't speak up you will inevitably cause some other family members to become victims too. Like your future nieces and nephews, I for one could not live with that on my conscience. You won't be ripping your family apart you will be saving them from more harm.
A lot for you to think about, but please don't keep silent. Draw from your inner strength and fight this evil, you are strong because you've survived this harmful act against yourself. Get professional help with it if you must but don't let him continue to harm others, he will it's his nature. You would become just like him if you ignore this and don't expose him, I know that sounds harsh but it's true the responsibility to correct the wrong belongs to the one who absolutely knows right from wrong and isn't afraid to fight evil.
I wish you well hun I'm sorry you've had this experience in your life it truly sucks but you can and you will overcome it and if you know absolutely you played a part in saving other family members from harms way how wonderful would that make you feel?