Wow. This is the kind of shit that usually happens to a JW in high school/college........not after. In turning him in, you may think it will help him to make his decision to be with you a little easier.or push him to at least make a decision, and stop flip-flopping. IT WILL BACKFIRE. He'll be drawn in, Disfellowshipped maybe.and then he will spend all his time determined to be re-instated. And, end up shunning you..........this is all theoretical of course. One thing I think you should understand is this: Even if he says (and probably means) that 'he doesn't care, and he just wants to be with you'... in his mind, and what we are told at the meetings are that he's living a double life. Henceforth, he will be punished accordingly. Either now, or at Armageddon. He probably really does mean it when he makes his commitment to you....with all his heart. but the mind control is so deep seated in this organization, He spends hours at night sleepless thinking about his demise......and how, or what he can do to "fix" the situation. I'm sorry you're caught up in this......it will NOT get better until he makes the solid decision to be with you come hell or high water.....and even then, there will be little voices of destruction in his head for a long time.
