Alone, But Not Lonely....

by compound complex 59 Replies latest jw friends

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Greetings Friends,

    Getting older has its benefits. I just don't take things so hard any more. I used to be so needy, depending on others to make up for what I lacked. Now that I've been alone for so many years, I realize that I can be alone - always a scary thing in the past - and not be lonely. I have contact with friends, family and clients most days, but some days I am home and actually talk to no one. Not even on the telephone.
    I'm finally doing all right being alone. I've got so much to do that can only be done when I am by myself.

    So, then - how are you doing if you're alone, or just feeling lonely?

    CoCo Le Curieux?

  • UnConfused
    UnConfused

    Get a good dog. It makes both scenarios better.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic
    I have contact with friends, family and clients most days, but some days I am home and actually talk to no one. Not even on the telephone.

    Wow sounds like me! I came from a big family with lots of cousins around too. I got married young and quickly had a brewed of my own and never had time for myself until I divorced and lived on my own at 48 years old!

    I'm finally doing all right being alone. I've got so much to do that can only be done when I am by myself.

    I love being alone and find lots to do to keep myself busy. I find that being around people for too long puts me on overload and I have to have some time alone to de-stress myself.

  • misanthropic
    misanthropic
    I'm finally doing all right being alone. I've got so much to do that can only be done when I am by myself.


    That's how I am too- peace and quiet is the best thing for me to get work done. There are times when being around other people drives me crazy. Interestingly enough the times I feel 'alone' I'm not all by myself.

  • Madame Quixote
    Madame Quixote

    I rarely crave company myself. I like the online medium. My daughter came home from her convention with a bunch of loud, hyper friends . . . I'm so glad she is exhausted and in bed now.

    Teen-agers are so incessant with the noise ..

  • helncon
    helncon

    I love having time to myself living in a busy household can be fun but i crave for the time to be alone.

    There a too some days where our phone doesnt ring ( our biz number is our home number).

    I think to my mum who now after having 31 years having a houseful and a job now copes ver the last 12 months of being by herslf with her animals in the middle of no where, i wonder if she gets any phone calls, i know the JW have been visiting here, this makes me cringe, and i know she just went to the memorial for the first time in MANY years, so i guess she is doing this for the socialisation. I also know she has been going back to meetings again this again my break her lonliness.

    I try and include her in any activities that we may do but there comes a point where she needs to get out on her own and for us the same. I try and ring her a few times a week.

    So i guess its how you make the use of it all.

    For me i relish it but for others they cannot handle being alone thus tend to be lonely.

    Helen

  • Tyrone van leyen
    Tyrone van leyen

    I'm always alone. I don't know. I get a lot of thinking and introspection done. It is good for the soul. I notice my typing improving as well. I reckon if I have a strong enough desire to see people I will. I keep myself busy with my creative wood working talents and antique collecting to name a few of my interests

  • Brigido
    Brigido

    I have been on my own for 9 years now. At first I hated it but I have come to enjoy the peace and quiet. So many people come home to chaos. That's not for me! It feels good to be able to come home to a quiet home, especially after a hard day at the office. My cats keep me company so it's not like I'm completely alone either. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be married again or living with someone but again, it seems like most of the people I know and or come in contact with have hectic lives and lots of "baggage"...but then again, don't we all. I think as we get older we just get used to our situations and adapt and are less likely to put up with people's crap. Life is too short for that! But yeah, just because one is alone doesn't necessarily mean that one is lonely. Keeping busy with hobbies, friends, the business of live in general passes the time just fine. It amazes me though seeing some people that just can't handle being alone and put themselves in bad situations just to pacify their loneliness. To each their own I guess.

  • tim hooper
    tim hooper

    I've been alone for the past year now.

    I don't like it, and hope I never get used to it, but at the present it's necessary whilst I do some personal rebuilding work.

    tim

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Thank You Friends,

    I guess we all have much in common. Your slant on this question has been enlightening and is appreciated. I no longer have reason to feel lonely.

    Gratefully,

    CoCo

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