Hi Sleepy & Garybuss,
Sleepy I am just starting to read Ray Franz's book. I wasn't sure what to expect but it does appear to me in the first 70-odd pages that I have read that his book is really trying to be truthful & show the facts as he saw them. Perhaps your wife might want to read it herself to make her own judgements on it? However obviously she may not want to since she is presumably still a practising witness?
You say that she is sceptical of Franz's book & scepticism is a healthy thing but as I have recently discovered you really have to be sceptical of many things & one of those is believing something is the truth before you have checked all facts.
If something is the truth then it will show through. It shocks me how much the WTBTS has changed things over the years - surely this wouldn't be necessary if it really was the complete truth - & as for the arguement that the light is getting brighter well that is true literally every morning - the light does get brighter but if it was like the WTBTS's light then one morning the light would be yellow, the next it would be red & tomorrow's perhaps purple - they haven't decided yet!
Seriously though it must be a very difficult thing to have doubts about something but for your wife not to be able to see it necessarily the same way as you do. However I believe that each of us must come to our own understanding of what is true so you may just have to let her have some time to think - however only you know your situation - I certainly don't, so best of luck - I hope it all works out.
However a final point to Garybuss. I was curious about your mention of “absolute spiritual endangerment” & so thought I would look it up using the 1997 WT CD. The only thing I could find was this...
WT 1988 11/1 "When Marital Peace Is Threatened"...
[12. Absolute endangerment of spirituality also provides a basis for separation. The believer in a religiously divided home should do everything possible to take advantage of God's spiritual provisions. But separation is allowable if an unbelieving mate's opposition (perhaps including physical restraint) makes it genuinely impossible to pursue true worship and actually imperils the believer's spirituality. Yet, what if a very unhealthy spiritual state exists where both mates are believers? The elders should render assistance, but especially should the baptized husband work diligently to remedy the situation. Of course, if a baptized marriage partner acts like an apostate and tries to prevent his mate from serving Jehovah, the elders should handle matters according to the Scriptures. If disfellowshipping takes place in a case involving absolute endangerment of spirituality, willful nonsupport, or extreme physical abuse, the faithful Christian who seeks a legal separation would not be going against Paul's counsel about taking a believer to court.-1 Corinthians 6:1-8.]
Perhaps I am reading your intentions wrong. However if you are trying to suggest that Sleepy is endangering his wife's spiritually then I think that you should consider if you have ANY RIGHT to say anything like that.
Considering all of the facts & looking at all the evidence is being open-minded - are you?
Now if I mis-interpreted your mentioning of this then fine - ignore what I have just said, but if I read your meaning right then don't you think you are going a bit far?