'I love you' (page 2)

Green Chille

Hi Zico, Yes, it is a strange thing to hear a family member say they love you, coming out of the blue. Even though in my family when growing up, we never once said the words, I love you to each other, we DID know we loved each other. So when my brother a few years back said to me after we finished talking..I Love You..I felt strange hearing him say that to me. So all I could muster was..I love you too.

Families just know when you love them by your actions and we forget to say the words...I Love You.....

Bumble Bee

For some peopele those are the three hardest words to say to another person. My husband was commenting the other day that his father never hugged him or ever said "I love you". I think I'll tell him what you did and encourage him to do the same.

You did a great (and brave) thing, and it just might be a turning point in your family.

BB

tetrapod.sapien

(((zico))),

good for you man! do you know what you are doing? it's called "breaking the cycles of dysfunction".

it's sad how little love there is, considering that "love" is really all you/we need.

on the other hand, it's encouraging to know there are humans like you!

love you bro! :) keep passing the love around!

tetra

becca1

I LOVE YOU!!!!! I mean it. I don't know you but l love the way you think, so I love you.

That was amazing what you did. It doesn't sound as if your family doesn't love you. They are just not good at verbalizing emotion.

Is this a British thing? "Stiff upper lip" and all that?

My parents never told me they were proud of me. I was an only child and tried very hard to please. I made very good grades in school and won many awards. Never heard "I'm proud of you".

A few years ago, we had WT study in which it was brought out that when Jesus was baptized, and Jehovah's voice was heard saying: "This is my son, the beloved, of whom I have approved", he was saying, "I'm proud of you". They brought out that our children need to hear this from their parents. A few days latter, my mother (who is totally obedient to the Society) said to me; "I'm proud of you" (I was over 40 years old and she was in her late 70's). I looked at her like she was nuts and said; "You've never said that to me in my life". She said: "I know. Now I've said it."

So I know how you feel and I know how your parents feel. I'ts weird either way.

But I still love you!

diamondblue1974

I saw this some time ago and thought it was great - thought I would share.

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DB74

lonelysheep

That was courageous of you, Zico! Just because they live that way doesn't mean you need to any longer. Keep staying true to yourself.

Nosferatu

There's only one person I say "I love you" to, and that's my wife. I don't want to hear those words from most other people, be it an Elder (yes, that actually happened), my parents, nor my best friend. However, if my best friend told me he loved me, I'd probably laugh and tell him to fvvv off with a half smile on my face.

It also feels wrong coming from my parents. I could care less about them.

Not sure about my boy. I might not say it back to him, but I'd let him know the feelings are mutual. If I had a daughter, I'd probably tell it to her.

Remember, it's okay to not say those words if the other person already knows.

love2Bworldly

I love your post! When I was growing up neither of my parents ever touched me, hugged me, said I love you or anything positive PERIOD. When my sister and I were teenagers, we started kissing them goodnight and you should have seen the surprised looks on their faces at first but there was also a hint of happiness because they liked it. When I became an adult is when my dad started saying I love you on the phone, and I admit I had to get used to hearing and saying it to my family.

I have 3 kids, and I have always made it a point to touch them and tell them I love them and that I'm proud of them. Self-esteem is SO important to a child so they can become healthy adults.

Zico

Thanks for all your comments. I'm sure my parents love me really, but I think it's nice to hear those words, so I thought I'd let them know. Because, why not? Still, I do find it fascinating that some people find it so difficult to say those words. If you do love someone, why is it so hard to tell them? I can't understand this. Not that I think refusing to say it means you DON'T love them, I just don't understand why you would refuse?

And that's a great video DB!

calico

I was out of touch with my sister for years because of following the rules of the WBTS--I thought I was being a good witness by not associating with her.

A couple of years ago my Mom got us together--my sister was suspicious--I don't blame her! After a while she knew we just wanted to be a family again.

Out of the blue she told me she loves me--I was so touched! She even yelled it across a parking lot!

Zico--Your story is sweet--it was an excellent idea!

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