I got into it with my ex the other day about my kids and them being around their dub relatives. They live with her and I know she needs help from her relatives, but I see it doing bad things. One in particular is the inability to determine their own preferences, they say what they think the people they are with want them to say. The dub family of course drills the JW poison into them constantly and they are punished in one way or another if they act too worldly or say something contrary to dubdom, so now they are beaten down. They are afraid to say what they really think and it takes me forever to get them to start opening up, which is reversed as soon as they get back home and have to go back to saying what everyone wants to hear.
I hate it because there isn't anyting I can do, and the hardest thing for me when I got out was learning to be honest and start to see things for myself, and not as I was taught to see them. I had to learn to be honest about how I really felt about things, all things from what music I really liked to what I wanted out of life.
The main fear I have is that they will get sucked in one day when they are feeling insecure about life and see all these people with the fake smiles and love, and get taken down the road most of us left. I wish I knew how to make sure that doesn't happen.
I'm betting I'm not the only one.