Did your Ex-spouse ever admit you were right about the WT?

moshe

I was divorced in 1988- (remarried in 2000) It was over a year in the making. Despite all my efforts to reason with her, I failed to get her to see the errors in the WT Society. After I told her my views on blood transfusions she called me an apostate and refused to discuss the JW's.-I was on the outside after that. I tried to show how the 1914 generation was a fake, the faithful slave was false, too. Never got anywhere with her.

About 5 years later I learn that she has stopped going to the KH,from my then 14 year old son. The elders had gotten too nosey about her personal/dating life to suit her.They had grounds to DF her for immorality, but never persued it and just let her fade out when she moved out of State. My two kids were happy to quit the KH,too! My daughter told me 5 years ago that her mom admitted that I was right about the WT Society all along. Do you think that she will ever apologize to me? Somehow ,I wonder that in some perverse way my Ex-wife still blames me for not being able to show her the "truth" about JW's back in 1988. An apology would go a long way toward closing that bitter chapter in my life. Has anyone here gotten their apology/ mea culpa from a former spouse or family member who later left the Org?

Emma

No, my ex still fears they may be right.

Finally-Free

My ex said she understood my reasons for wanting to leave the JWs. She acknowledged that the WTS was corrupt, but believed it was still God's organization, and that He would "deal with it in his own time". I told her the same reasoning could be applied to every religion, thus eliminating any reason for someone to convert to JWism from the religion of their birth. She didn't get it. When I left the cult she dove even deeper into it. I've been told she's doing much better spiritually now that I'm gone.

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OnTheWayOut

She admitted you were right to the kids, so that's great. At least they know WTS is crap, and that Mom admitted how smart Dad was.

Settle for that. You might get more, but doesn't that feel great already?

LovesDubs

I think this would be like expecting an apology from someone who molested you as a kid. I wouldnt wait around for it. Their hard headedness seems insurmountable.

I for my part couldnt wait to apology to my nonJW family members about how Id acted towards them. I couldnt live with myself if I didnt. I was doing Earl before Earl was...fixing my karma.

gordon d

Hey Mo

moshe

Lovesdubs- I apologized to my relatives and work friends ,too. They treated me a lot better than I treated them. One of the first things I did after I quit the WT was put together a retirement party for a worker. People later said "Moshe did that?" They were in a state of shock.

gordon d

OOpps... wrong button!

Hey Moshe,
Was it difficult for her to say the dreaded, "I was wrong..You were right" on other issues?

i.e. Is this a religion based hurdle or is this a communication/ego problem for her?

Now be honest... What are you hoping to gain with her acknowledgement?

moshe

I would gain little, but it would help her a lot! Confession is good for the soul, as they say.

Did your Ex-spouse ever admit you were right about the WT?

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