Well, I'm not sure if I've done anything right, but the best thing we've ever done, was leave the borg.
Our kids are still being raised with morals, and values, but they are also allowed to do things, they wouldn't have been able to do as witnesses. They have good friends, and play sports, which keeps them busy, and they enjoy it. We allow them to be themselves, and express themselves, within reason. We get to know their friends, and their parents, they aren't allowed to just "hang around", they must have something to do, with their friends, be it skateboarding, or "jamming", or going to the movies. We keep them busy, and it means less time to get into trouble. However, it doesn't mean there won't be some kind of troubles along the way. Kids will be kids. So far, so good...got my fingers crossed...
Raising children is trial and error. We're trying to do better than our parents did, by letting them have a somewhat "normal"childhood.
They are making plans to further their education, when they finish high school, in order to have good jobs in which to support themselves.
We have more time to focus on the family, now, and that has been the best thing for us. We need to make time for family. As Witnesses, we spent far too much time, going to meetings, assemblies and preparing to go in service, than we did spending time with each other.
This is what is working for my family. Of course, every family is different.