Spoke to my wife about JWD for the first time.

nicolaou

We went out for a real nice Chinese buffet last night and enjoyed 'people watching' - like you do. Anyway, at some point the conversation came round to an old friend of mine who'd got in touch recently. He's a 41 year old ex-dub, divorced but with a very active social life. He has lots of new friends but likes to stay in contact with me even though we hardly get to meet in person anymore.

I suggested that this was because none of his new friends 'get it'. My wife knew just what I meant and commented that "No-one else really understands even if you try to explain it to them" and that, "When you're in you can have all the association you want but when you're out you can't have any."

I took the plunge and said that I go to a discussion board from time to time and read the experiences of many who've left the 'Truth'. I said that everyone's different and that while some are bitter many are simply hurting from being shunned and are missing their families. I told her about Richie Rich and what the poor guy is going through with his Mum.

That was it. That's where that short conversation ended and it was enough. The thing is, I know she would benefit greatly from JWD and I really think that she's ready for you lot now. My question is, how do I introduce her?

V

I actually had the opportunity to show my JW wife this site recently.

I used the excuse of finding a certain topic via Google, surprise JWD! Her initial reaction was telling:

1) Started with the JW programming: "A buch of disgruntled apostates", etc.

2) Then we found a topic about boring meetings (she agrees) and she carefully read though the experience without comment.

3) Anything harsh, critical or extreme she outrightly rejected.

4) She was facinated by the "scoopers" releasing advance word of publications, announcements, etc.

She has no interest in viewing the site for herself, but now I can be browse JWD without fear (although I don't push it around her).

I recommend finding an experience topic that would interest her and/or let her browse the site to show that many active JWs post as well. Good luck.

LittleToe

Take it slow. You've survived so far. Leave it a while and mention your involvement again sometime. Let her make the first move by asking to see the board. It might be that the story of one of the lassies would resonate more.

I know I don't need to tell you this, but the risk of rushing this, after all your hard work, could be very costly indeed.

OUTLAW

Start a thread..Introduce her as your Mrs..Let her interact on the thread with us..She`ll get a boat load of welcomes..That should be a nice start...OUTLAW

jgnat

I made life much easier on myself by being open about my internet involvement from the very beginning. My (JW) hubby knows about this site and how much time I spend on it. He calls you my chat bunnies.

I introduce him by starting topics that interest him (i.e. sports), or pointing out something, usually a joke or a link to a cool video or animation, that I know he will enjoy.

No secrets, no problems.

greendawn

It's a place where people can air their opinions freely and if she doesn't agree with something she can register and put forward a rebuttal. Unlike what goes on in the dubs.

M.J.

This might be a good thread to break the ice:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/121603/1.ashx

cruzanheart

My husband (Big Tex) started printing out threads that he knew would interest me, and he'd leave them on the kitchen counter in the morning (he worked nights back then so the kitchen counter was Ground Zero for anything we wanted the other one to see). I found it all very interesting and finally had to get on and say a few things myself. The rest is JWD history!

Nina

fullofdoubtnow

I'd take it slow Nic, just drop a few hints, maybe tell her about a topic you think she'd be interested in, and invite her to look. She might say yes, and if she does it might resontae with her that you can actually disagree with something on here without retribution.

Good luck!

nicolaou

All good advice and I thank you for it. It's difficult to be patient at times but some things are worth waiting for.

Nic'

Spoke to my wife about JWD for the first time.

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