Parents say the damnedest things. I am at a loss for words!!!
Well, maybe this:
Your dad's actions make me recall a passage of the Screwtape Letters by CS Lewis, where a sr devil (Screwtape) teaches the jr devil (Wormwood) how to neutralize real love. He advised him to slowly bring his human 'patient' to love in an imaginary way. That is, the devil should redirect the man's ardor from the real people who are nearby and needy, and focus it on those further away and far less tangible. The more one does this, the better. In such a way, real love subtly changes to a fantasy of the imagination of the mind, and is never practiced. Such 'love' is never dangerous, according to Screwtape.