I have personally found this issue to be the most enduring scar from my JW experience. Losing all your friends overnight makes you excessively wary of being emotionally vulnerable again. Strangely this didn't deter me from associating with churches, but this certainly limited deeply my emotional commitment in personal relationships -- where anything that even remotely resembles "shunning" really hurts. This is probably a bit sad and unfair, but I can see no easy solution.
Lack of Trust
Yea, the whole belief structure disintegration and social identification thing does quite a number on ya,....
Someone once told me that trusting people is like lighting candles. Everyone gets a candle to start. Everytime trust is reaffirmed, you light another candle. It doesn't take a lot of effort to blow out one or two and there are always other candles to light but good friends take time to find.
I do think you have to trust, to believe in something solid, to make it so by investing in it and making it real no matter what it is and it really doesn't matter what it is as long as it is. But first of all, trust in yourself. You're here. And before you know it, you'll be where you want to be. But only if you believe it.
but when your a JW and you finally see it's not the truth there is something that changes in you. You'll never be as trusting as you once where.
you loose an innocence that is forever gone
I agree with your post. I think the JW experience sours people against religion in general. There are exceptions to this rule because we see ex-JWs who join another religion, etc. As far as I am concerned, I am cured.
My problem is that I am angry at God (I know, it's pathetic). I feel that they hurt many people and they used His name. Does he not care? I have a problem with this. If he doesn't care, and if he feels our life is so worthless that it doesn't matter what we went through, etc., etc., how could I love a God like this??? This all seems fiendish to me. As you said, they lied so much, not only without remorse, but insulting everybody's intelligence in the process.
They really deserve to be punished.