I think that the problem that agap37 is having with our explanations to him, is his inability to seperate the practicle aspects of what we are talking about with the applied aspects which are sanctioned by the WTS. When we take a look at his first post, we see that he lists 4 seperate stages that the Bible outlines in the resolving of disputes within any local community of believers.
He stresses the first two points of his list with vigour even backing this up with copious references to WT literature. Having served on various elder committees, I rather suspect that the way the WT applies those first two points is exaggerated at best, cursory at worst. There is a calculated almost pharasaical regard for the ritualized externals rather than a true brotherly devotion for the offender.
But that is not my point here. As AlanF has shown there is a deliberate disregard for the implementation of the next step [listed as step 3 by agapa37] that is of concern to us who were once locked into this system. To quote AlanF again, he has sucessfully shown that the next step is to bring the matter before the church, [congregation in WT lingo] It is here that WT fiat, and not biblical exegesis takes over.
The WT has always applied this, not to the congregation, but the elders in the respective congregation.See Matt 18:17. The most noxious element in this interpretation, is not just that the body of elders in any given congregation suggest a secret conclave, but that they are not independant, freely minded men serving the best interests of the indviduals over whom they preside in Christian charity. The elders in any given cogregation of the WT movement, are nothing more than burerucratic funtionaries, flunkies, even, who owe their position not to the excercising of spiritual discernment, but because they are the ones best positioned to impose the WT imperium in the local sphere.
Elders, being clones of those in authority in the HQ of the WT movement, thus ensure that the interests of the Leadership, and not the local community are upheld. As Jgnat has also indicated, the best way to do the right thing is to do exactly as the Bible suggests, and that to have an open communion between all, so that the different sides may be clearly understood. A free people, freely excercizing the gifts of the spirit can beat a closed system exactingly controlled any time.