if you noticed someone has missed a few meetings, not to call the person because there maybe something wrong going on in their life and you don't want to endanger your spirituality. He said to call the elders first to make sure everything is okay then to call the person if they give the go ahead.
Legalism indeed, not love.
I heard a CO advise against praying for spiritually week individuals at the public meetings. WTF?
Its more like an organisation than a congregation.