OK, time for an update on the situation over here, post-Valentine's Day.
Here on my own, Valentine's Day wasn't too horrible, it definitely could've been worse. I got cards in the mail from both of my parents (and there was even some money in the card from my dad!! ), my roommates and I exchanged cards and chocolates and there were lots of flowers delivered to our apartment. One of my roommates got a bouquet of bright spring flowers from some nameless person - we like to think it's a secret admirer - and another roommate got a huge bouquet of roses and lilies from her Swiss boyfriend. A close guy-friend of mine even dropped by with three pretty pink roses for me, I was very surprised. Plus, we're a very festive group of people, so there were decorations all around, too, it was quite nice here.
On the relationship front, it wasn't as disastrous with my JW boyfriend as I thought it would be. It was actually a little better than I was hoping for. We couldn't be together for Valentine's Day because of the distance, and he didn't send me anything, but he still reacted better than I was hoping for. I sent him an e-card to make sure that he got something yesterday, and he didn't grumble about it, and there's a regular card in the mail, he should get it shortly, I was late sending it, so I'll be waiting to hear about that when he finally gets it. I also made sure to tell him all about the festivities we had over here yesterday and that someone cared enough to send me flowers, and then I sat back and waited for him to explode at me. Hey, he generally doesn't handle special occasions very well, he usually has something rude and dismissive to say about them, so I was prepared for and expecting some nasty comments. Instead, here's what I got:
"Hehe, sounds like your place is buried in flowers today. ;-) Ooh, I wish I could be there today for you. I know it's hard finally having a good guy, and not being able to spend valentines day with him. But well, that's what we get for living so far apart. I've never really been interested in valentines day, but some day we'll have one together. Just have to wait until you're finally out of school. I'm sure it'll be very fun. :-)"
I copied and pasted that directly out of his email, those are his exact words. Let's examine that, shall we?? Firstly, he doesn't say anything rude about our flowers and he acknowledges how hard it is for me to have Valentine's Day alone when I have a boyfriend that I love very much - so far, so good. And he notes that we weren't together yesterday because of the distance, which is very true. And then... wait, what's that?? Ooo, do I see the possibility of a future Valentine's Day?? OK, I'll admit, I had to pick my jaw up off the floor when read that. He says that he's "never really been interested in Valentine's Day", which I'm gonna take as "I'm a Witness, I don't celebrate", but hey, he said that we'll have Valentine's Day sometime!! The only stipulation?? It'll have to wait until I finish school, which is perfectly reasonable because I'm always here in school for Valentine's Day, so we can't be together anyway, even if he wasn't a JW. I don't see any "Maybe we'll try Valentine's Day sometime" or "I guess we can do something for Valentine's Day some day if you really want to", this is a "We're gonna have Valentine's Day when it's actually possible"!!
OK, I'm not about to jump to conclusions and assume that he's suddenly willing to celebrate everything that I do, but he's willing to celebrate Valentine's Day with me, and I think that's a start. Maybe I'm grasping at straws, but at this point, knowing how stubborn and rude he usually is about holidays, I'll take what I can get!! Some good might come of this after all. This just might work out. I've said it before, I'll say it again - a girl can dream, right??
So I guess my Valentine's Day wasn't completely ruined after all. Sure, I was sad for most of yesterday, I was very lonely and yeah, I had to spend some time with my box of Kleenex, but in the end, there's a small ray of light, a spark of hope. Hey, all might not be lost after all!!
Any comments, anyone?? How did Valentine's Day go for all the rest of you UBMs out there??