Another book I didn't know about but sounds interesting
"Crazy" Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work?
by Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, copyright 1996
The Therapeutic Relationship
The relationship between patient and therapist is unique in important ways when compared to relationships between clients and other professionals such as physicians, dentists, attorneys, and accountants. The key difference is present from first contact: it is not clearly understood exactly what will transpire. There is no other professional relationship in which consumers are more in the dark than when they first go to see a therapist.
In other fields, the public is fairly well informed about what the professional does. Tradition, the media, and general experience have provided consumers with a baseline by which to judge what transpires. If you break your arm, the orthopedist explains she will take an X ray and set the bone; she tells you something about how long the healing will take if all goes well and gives you an estimate of the cost. When you go to a dentist, you expect him to look at your teeth, take a history, explain what was noted, and recommend a course of treatment with an estimate of time and cost. Your accountant will focus on bookkeeping, tax reports, and finances, and help you deal with regulatory agencies.
Consumers enter these relationships expecting that the training, expertise, and ethical obligations of the professional will keep the client's best interests foremost. Both the consumer and the professional are aware of each person's role, and it is generally expected that the professional will stick to doing what he or she is trained to do. The consumer does not expect his accountant to lure him into accepting a new cosmology of how the world works or to "channel" financial information from "entities" who lived thousands of years ago; or for his dentist to induce him to believe that the status of his teeth was affected by an extraterrestrial experimenting on him. Nor does the patient expect the orthopedist to lead him to think the reason he fell and broke his arm was because he was under the influence of a secret satanic cult.
But seeing a therapist is a far different situation for the consumer. In the field of psychotherapy there is no relatively agreed upon body of knowledge, no standard procedures that a client can expect. There are no national regulatory bodies, and not every state has governing boards or licensing agencies. There are many types and levels of practitioners. Often the client knows little or nothing at all about what type of therapy a particular therapist "believes in" or what the therapist is really going to be doing in the relationship with the client.
In meeting a therapist for the first time, most consumers are almost as blind as a bat about what will transpire between the two of them. At most, they might think they will probably talk to the therapist and perhaps get some feedback or suggestions for treatment. What clients might not be aware of is the gamut of training, the idiosyncratic notions, and the odd practices that they may be exposed to by certain practitioners.
Consumers are a vulnerable and trusting lot. And because of the special, unpredictable nature of the therapeutic relationship, it is easy for them to be taken advantage of. This makes it all the more incumbent on therapists to be especially ethical and aware of the power their role carries in our society. The misuse and abuse of power is one of the central factors in what goes wrong.
Questions to Ask Your Prospective Therapist
Ultimately, a therapist is a service provider who sells a service. A prospective client should feel free to ask enough questions to be able to make an informed decision about whether to hire a particular therapist.
We have provided a general list of questions to ask a prospective therapist, but feel free to ask whatever you need to know in order to make a proper evaluation. Consider interviewing several therapists before settling on one, just as you might in purchasing any product.
Draw up your list of questions before phoning or going in for your first appointment. We recommend that you ask these questions in a phone interview first, so that you can weed out unlikely candidates and save yourself the time and expense of initial visits that don't go anywhere.
If during the process a therapist continues to ask you, "Why do you ask?" or acts as though your questioning reflects some defect in you, think carefully before signing up. Those types of responses will tell you a lot about the entire attitude this person will express toward you - that is, that you are one down and he is one up, and that furthermore you are quaint to even ask the "great one" to explain himself.
If you are treated with disdain for asking about what you are buying, think ahead: how could this person lead you to feel better, plan better, or have more self-esteem if he begins by putting you down for being an alert consumer? Remember, you may be feeling bad and even desperate, but there are thousands of mental health professionals, so if this one is not right, keep on phoning and searching.
- How long is the therapy session?
- How often should I see you?
- How much do you charge? Do you have a sliding scale?
- Do you accept insurance?
- If I have to miss an appointment, will I be billed?
- If I am late, or if you are late, what happens?
- Tell me something about your educational background, your degrees. Are you licensed?
- Tell me about your experience, and your theoretical orientation. What type of clients have you seen? Are there areas you specialize in?
- Do you use hypnosis or other types of trance-inducing techniques?
- Do you have a strong belief in the supernatural? Do you believe in UFOs, past lives, or paranormal events? Do you have any kind of personal philosophy that guides your work with all your clients?
- Do you value scientific research? How do you keep up with research and developments in your field?
- Do you believe that it's okay to touch your clients or be intimate with them?
- Do you usually set treatment goals with a client? How are those determined? How long do you think I will need therapy?
- Will you see my partner, spouse, or child with me if necessary in the future?
- Are you reachable in a crisis? How are such consultations billed?
After the Interview, Ask Yourself:
After the Interview, Ask Yourself:
- Overall, does this person appear to be a competent, ethical professional?
- Do I feel comfortable with the answers I got to my questions?
- Am I satisfied with the answers I got to my questions?
- Are there areas I'm still uncertain about that make me wonder whether this is the right therapist for me?
How to evaluate your current therapy
Are there areas I'm still uncertain about that make me wonder whether this is the right therapist for me?
Remember, you are about to allow this person to meddle with your mind, your emotional well being and your life. You will be telling her very personal things, and entrusting her with intimate information about yourself and other people in your life. Take seriously the decision to select a therapist, and if you feel you made a mistake, stop working with that one and try someone else.
What if you have been in treatment a while? What do you ask or consider in order to help evaluate what is going on? The issues below may assist.
1. Do you feel worse and more worried and discouraged than when you began the therapy?Sometimes having top access one's current life can be a bit of a downer, but remember, you went for help. You may feel you are not getting what you need. Most important, watch out if you call this to your therapist's attention and he says, "You have to get worse in order to get better." That's an old saw used as an exculpatory excuse. Instead of discussing the real issues, which a competent therapist would, this response puts all the blame on you, the client. The therapist one-ups you, telling you he knows the path you have to travel. It's an evasion that allows the therapist to avoid discussing how troubled you are and that his treatment or lack of skill may be causing or, at the very least, contributing to your state.
2. Is your therapist professional? Does he seem to know what he is doing? Or do features such as the following characterize your therapy:
3. Does your therapist seem to be controlling you, sequestering you from family, friends, and other advisers?
4. Does your therapist try to touch you?
- Handshakes at the beginning and end of a session can be routine. Anything beyond that is not acceptable. Some clients do allow their therapist to hug them when they leave, but this should be done only after you’ve been asked and have given your approval. If you are getting the impression that the touching is becoming or is blatantly sexualized, quit the therapy immediately.
- Are you noticing what we call "the rolling chair syndrome"? Some therapists who begin to touch and encroach on the bodies of their clients have chairs that roll, and as time goes by they roll closer and closer. Before you realize what’s happened, your therapist might have rolled his chair over and clasped your knees between his opened legs. He may at first take this as a comforting gesture. Don’t buy it!
5. Does your therapist seem to have only one interpretation for everything? Does she lead you to the same conclusion about your troubles no matter what you tell her?
Excerpted with permission from"Crazy" Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work? By Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, copyright 1996 by Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, by Jossey-Bass Inc., Publishers, 350 Sansome Street, San Francisco, California 94104 (800-956-7739). Available through AFF’s Bookstore