"Crazy" Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work?

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    Lady Lee

    Another book I didn't know about but sounds interesting

    "Crazy" Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work?

    by Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, copyright 1996

    The Therapeutic Relationship

    The relationship between patient and therapist is unique in important ways when compared to relationships between clients and other professionals such as physicians, dentists, attorneys, and accountants. The key difference is present from first contact: it is not clearly understood exactly what will transpire. There is no other professional relationship in which consumers are more in the dark than when they first go to see a therapist.

    In other fields, the public is fairly well informed about what the professional does. Tradition, the media, and general experience have provided consumers with a baseline by which to judge what transpires. If you break your arm, the orthopedist explains she will take an X ray and set the bone; she tells you something about how long the healing will take if all goes well and gives you an estimate of the cost. When you go to a dentist, you expect him to look at your teeth, take a history, explain what was noted, and recommend a course of treatment with an estimate of time and cost. Your accountant will focus on bookkeeping, tax reports, and finances, and help you deal with regulatory agencies.

    Consumers enter these relationships expecting that the training, expertise, and ethical obligations of the professional will keep the client's best interests foremost. Both the consumer and the professional are aware of each person's role, and it is generally expected that the professional will stick to doing what he or she is trained to do. The consumer does not expect his accountant to lure him into accepting a new cosmology of how the world works or to "channel" financial information from "entities" who lived thousands of years ago; or for his dentist to induce him to believe that the status of his teeth was affected by an extraterrestrial experimenting on him. Nor does the patient expect the orthopedist to lead him to think the reason he fell and broke his arm was because he was under the influence of a secret satanic cult.

    But seeing a therapist is a far different situation for the consumer. In the field of psychotherapy there is no relatively agreed upon body of knowledge, no standard procedures that a client can expect. There are no national regulatory bodies, and not every state has governing boards or licensing agencies. There are many types and levels of practitioners. Often the client knows little or nothing at all about what type of therapy a particular therapist "believes in" or what the therapist is really going to be doing in the relationship with the client.

    In meeting a therapist for the first time, most consumers are almost as blind as a bat about what will transpire between the two of them. At most, they might think they will probably talk to the therapist and perhaps get some feedback or suggestions for treatment. What clients might not be aware of is the gamut of training, the idiosyncratic notions, and the odd practices that they may be exposed to by certain practitioners.

    Consumers are a vulnerable and trusting lot. And because of the special, unpredictable nature of the therapeutic relationship, it is easy for them to be taken advantage of. This makes it all the more incumbent on therapists to be especially ethical and aware of the power their role carries in our society. The misuse and abuse of power is one of the central factors in what goes wrong.

    Questions to Ask Your Prospective Therapist

    Ultimately, a therapist is a service provider who sells a service. A prospective client should feel free to ask enough questions to be able to make an informed decision about whether to hire a particular therapist.

    We have provided a general list of questions to ask a prospective therapist, but feel free to ask whatever you need to know in order to make a proper evaluation. Consider interviewing several therapists before settling on one, just as you might in purchasing any product.

    Draw up your list of questions before phoning or going in for your first appointment. We recommend that you ask these questions in a phone interview first, so that you can weed out unlikely candidates and save yourself the time and expense of initial visits that don't go anywhere.

    If during the process a therapist continues to ask you, "Why do you ask?" or acts as though your questioning reflects some defect in you, think carefully before signing up. Those types of responses will tell you a lot about the entire attitude this person will express toward you - that is, that you are one down and he is one up, and that furthermore you are quaint to even ask the "great one" to explain himself.

    If you are treated with disdain for asking about what you are buying, think ahead: how could this person lead you to feel better, plan better, or have more self-esteem if he begins by putting you down for being an alert consumer? Remember, you may be feeling bad and even desperate, but there are thousands of mental health professionals, so if this one is not right, keep on phoning and searching.

    1. How long is the therapy session?
    2. How often should I see you?
    3. How much do you charge? Do you have a sliding scale?
    4. Do you accept insurance?
    5. If I have to miss an appointment, will I be billed?
    6. If I am late, or if you are late, what happens?
    7. Tell me something about your educational background, your degrees. Are you licensed?
    8. Tell me about your experience, and your theoretical orientation. What type of clients have you seen? Are there areas you specialize in?
    9. Do you use hypnosis or other types of trance-inducing techniques?
    10. Do you have a strong belief in the supernatural? Do you believe in UFOs, past lives, or paranormal events? Do you have any kind of personal philosophy that guides your work with all your clients?
    11. Do you value scientific research? How do you keep up with research and developments in your field?
    12. Do you believe that it's okay to touch your clients or be intimate with them?
    13. Do you usually set treatment goals with a client? How are those determined? How long do you think I will need therapy?
    14. Will you see my partner, spouse, or child with me if necessary in the future?
    15. Are you reachable in a crisis? How are such consultations billed?

    After the Interview, Ask Yourself:

    After the Interview, Ask Yourself:

    1. Overall, does this person appear to be a competent, ethical professional?
    2. Do I feel comfortable with the answers I got to my questions?
    3. Am I satisfied with the answers I got to my questions?
    4. Are there areas I'm still uncertain about that make me wonder whether this is the right therapist for me?

    How to evaluate your current therapy

    Are there areas I'm still uncertain about that make me wonder whether this is the right therapist for me?

    Remember, you are about to allow this person to meddle with your mind, your emotional well being and your life. You will be telling her very personal things, and entrusting her with intimate information about yourself and other people in your life. Take seriously the decision to select a therapist, and if you feel you made a mistake, stop working with that one and try someone else.

    What if you have been in treatment a while? What do you ask or consider in order to help evaluate what is going on? The issues below may assist.

    1. Do you feel worse and more worried and discouraged than when you began the therapy?

    Sometimes having top access one's current life can be a bit of a downer, but remember, you went for help. You may feel you are not getting what you need. Most important, watch out if you call this to your therapist's attention and he says, "You have to get worse in order to get better." That's an old saw used as an exculpatory excuse. Instead of discussing the real issues, which a competent therapist would, this response puts all the blame on you, the client. The therapist one-ups you, telling you he knows the path you have to travel. It's an evasion that allows the therapist to avoid discussing how troubled you are and that his treatment or lack of skill may be causing or, at the very least, contributing to your state.

    2. Is your therapist professional? Does he seem to know what he is doing? Or do features such as the following characterize your therapy:

    • The therapist arrives late, takes phone calls, forgets appointments, looks harassed and unkempt, smells of alcohol, has two clients arrive at one time, or otherwise appears not to have her act together at a basic level.
    • The therapist seems as puzzled or at sea as you do about your problems?
    • The therapist seems to lack overall direction, has no plans about what you two are doing.
    • The Therapist repeats and seems to rely on sympathetic platitudes such as "Trust me," or "Things will get better. Just keep coming in."
    • The therapy hour is without direction and seems more like amiable chitchat with a friend.
    • 3. Does your therapist seem to be controlling you, sequestering you from family, friends, and other advisers?

      • with anyone else, thus cutting off the help that such talk normally brings to an individual, and making you seem secretive and weird about your therapy?
      • Does the therapist insist that your therapy is much more important in your life than it really is?
      • Does the therapist make himself a major figure in your life, keeping you focusing on your relationship with him?
      • Does the therapist insist that you postpone decisions such as changing jobs, becoming engaged, getting married, having a child, or moving, implying or openly stating that your condition has to be cured and his imprimatur given before you act on your own?
      • Does the therapist mainly interpret your behavior as sick, immature, unstable? Does he fail to tell you that many of your reactions are normal, everyday responses to situations?
      • Does the therapist keep you looking only at the bad side of your life?
      • 4. Does your therapist try to touch you?

        • Handshakes at the beginning and end of a session can be routine. Anything beyond that is not acceptable. Some clients do allow their therapist to hug them when they leave, but this should be done only after you’ve been asked and have given your approval. If you are getting the impression that the touching is becoming or is blatantly sexualized, quit the therapy immediately.
        • Are you noticing what we call "the rolling chair syndrome"? Some therapists who begin to touch and encroach on the bodies of their clients have chairs that roll, and as time goes by they roll closer and closer. Before you realize what’s happened, your therapist might have rolled his chair over and clasped your knees between his opened legs. He may at first take this as a comforting gesture. Don’t buy it!

        5. Does your therapist seem to have only one interpretation for everything? Does she lead you to the same conclusion about your troubles no matter what you tell her?

        • You might have sought help with a crisis in your family, a seemingly irresolvable dilemma at your job, some personal situation, a mild depressed state after a death of a loved one, or any number of reasons. But before you were able to give sufficient history so that the therapist could grasp why you were there and what you wanted to work on, the therapist began to fit you into a mold. You find that, for example, the therapist insists on focusing on your childhood, telling you your present demeanor suggests that you were ritually abused or subjected to incest, or that you may be a multiple personality - currently three very faddish diagnoses.
        • Excerpted with permission from

          "Crazy" Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work? By Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, copyright 1996 by Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich, by Jossey-Bass Inc., Publishers, 350 Sansome Street, San Francisco, California 94104 (800-956-7739). Available through AFF’s Bookstore
      • trevor

        Lady Lee

        I work as a Psychotherapist in the UK. No approved therapist would have any objection to answering all the questions suggested. I send out an information pack which contains the information shown below. In addition it clearly states the terms of business and the importance of punctuality. I also enclose a brochure provided by the organisation that I belong to.

        “Thank you for your enquiry. You may have requested this information because you are having difficulty coping or coming to terms with your life at present. You may have reached a point in your life where you feel that you need help to overcome a problem. It may be due to something that has occurred recently. It could be something that you have suffered with for as long as you can remember but have decided that the time has come for you to get help in dealing with your feelings. Perhaps there is something that you would like to do that you cannot or something that you are doing that you would like to stop doing.

        Life is not always easy and just finding the will and courage to deal with each day can be a challenge. Knowing what sort of help you need and finding someone who you feel you can trust who will offer the right help, is in itself a challenge. We all have times in all our lives when we need to be listened to. At such times, we need to be able to share our experiences, thoughts and feelings with someone who is able to accept our hurt and confusion and help to find a way through the impasse that has been reached. Family and friends can be a great help at such times but they may not always be able to be there in this way. They may not know how to help or may be too emotionally involved to be able to listen objectively. Sometimes there are things that need to be looked into that you would not want to share with those close to you.

        Therapy can help you make sense of your life, resolve specific problems and help you to make decisions. It can help you deal with phobia, stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, addictions, abuse, bereavement, divorce or separation, conflict with others, relationships, and many other issues affecting emotional and mental well-being. Some of the above are symptoms of depression and affect a large number of people. Depression can vary enormously in degree and can become a habit, which like all habits becomes a part of who we think we are and can go unrecognised. Many habits can be traced to a root cause and overcome.

        It can be helpful at times to explore the past and the way it relates to the present to help understand yourself today but it is no longer the total focus of therapy. A good therapist will not focus on just the past or the present but will help you to come to an understanding of the relationship between the two. There are many techniques that can be used to help you to alter your feelings and actions in the present. Hypnosis allows you to access the emotional part of your mind and be guided to make the changes that you desire. It is a natural state of mind, not unlike daydreaming. People sometimes worry that they will blurt out all their secrets but it does not work like that. You will be relaxed, aware and able to use the power of your imagination fully.

        You will gain a better understanding of yourself and what motivates you. Negative feelings about certain aspects of your life or yourself can be replaced with a positive outlook. This involves helping you explore what motivates a particular behaviour or thought, or how you have come to believe what you believe, especially if that thought or belief causes deep unhappiness or anxiety. Occasionally, you may have a feeling that you don't know how to cope with, or possess a painful emotion that doesn't seem to go away no matter what you do. These are common situations for which people often seek help to deal with. Talking these issues over with someone who is non-judgemental and understanding can make a difference. Before you embark on Therapy, you should ask yourself what you hope to achieve, and how you will know if the therapy has been successful. Therapy provides a safe space to explore your emotions and find new ways of looking at your life where you can express your feelings without fear of judgement.

        The first time you meet me we would discuss needs and concerns and you can ask any questions that you have. We will explore your present situation, which will enable me to assess whether the help I offer will meet your particular needs. You will be free to share your feelings with me and discuss in confidence the things that trouble you. You will need to be honest with yourself and be prepared to make changes in your outlook. You will be making a commitment of time and money because you have decided that you want to move forward with your life. I for my part will assist you in a friendly yet professional manner.

        You should expect your therapist to be a warm and understanding professional helper, who you feel you can talk to and receive genuine empathy and understanding from. How much time it takes to make lasting changes in your outlook or emotions will depend on many factors including your commitment to change and the severity of your difficulties. It has been said that people decide it is time to make a change in their lives when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. I hope you will find the courage to seek help in dealing with the difficulties that you are faced with at present. You will take that important step making an appointment when you have decided that it is time to make a change.”

      • jgnat

        I love you guys. It's people like you that make me brave to talk about my haunted past. I'd experienced third-hand some of the crazy therapies tried on my mother, and it left a bitter taste. After that, I mostly took care of myself. But people like you; dedicated, sensitive, alert...you restore my faith.

        A notable crazy therapy tried on my mother. She was told she was repressed (which is true) and she was encouraged to start swearing (which was stupid). My mother came home, the same mother who had never said anything racier than "rats" or "drat", swearing like a trooper. Thanks for nothing, therapist.

        I also really resented mom's long-term psychiatrist because he firmly believed mom was his only patient, and he had neglibile contact with my dad and none at all with us children. She got all the attention while we were hurting, alone, floundering. The family are the first to notice if the patient is derailing, and it is frustrating as hell to watch it happen, screaming at the conductor for all we're worth, only to have "professionals" tell us there's nothing they can do until our loved-one becomes "a danger to themselves or others." It made us wonder, what did they need? A train wreck?

      • Lady Lee
        Lady Lee

        Thank you Trevor.

        There really are some great therapists out there. People need to know that the person they will talk to about the most intimate of the pains they hold inside is willing to be interviewed.

        If you interview a babysitter for your child to find the best possible then you need to be able to do that with a therapist.

        If they refuse to answer - RUN.

        If they start making your questions about YOU and YOUR problem - RUN.

        I have worked with many people who have nightmarish stories to tell about past therapists they have seen.

      • Lady Lee
        Lady Lee

        JG Sadly there are still a lot of therapists who think that way. But it's getting better. You can't take a person who lives in an environment with other people and just treat the one. The issues affect the whole family and there are definite times to treat certain issues as a family problem

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