Hi there Rugman! My story; pretty familiar to most; d'fd last year, married my love, and never been happier! I love this place because half the people here have been through the same thing, and the other half are trying to understand their loved ones. We all help each other, just by being here, kind of like a congregation is supposed to work!
If you're shunned in any way you'd relate to the anxiety, fear and general misery this causes. That sometimes expresses itself in bitter comments on the board. I say, get it out of your system; better posted publicly than keeping it inside making you unhappy.
Anyway, hope things go well for you, whatever your story is!