I can honestly say I had more positive experiences within the JW community with the men & women of it. In saying this I exclude my ex-husband as being a good part of it.
I knew of two sisters who were special pioneers when we met them back in 1975 or so, and when I left they were still special pioneers. I never met more down to earth reasonable and kind women than them. They even hugged me when I told them I was going to be disfellowshipped and told me their porch light will always be on for me when I was ready to return. I still think of them fondly.
A very caring Elder in the congregation that was close friends with our family along with his wife was outstanding. He knew of the terrible verbal abuse I endured and even of the physical abuse that happen a few times. I told him about my love for my Lost Love from high school, and how we had found each other on the internet and I wanted to leave my then JW husband. He laid out the pro's & con's for me to leave my husband who hated me. Because of his encouraging words and how loving God is I made the jump and left my JW ex-husband. He clearly laid out how disfellowshipping would go for me but not to give up the truth as he understood it. That I could return one day and be welcomed back. I even saw he and his wife reciently and gave me a warm smile and said hello. He was on my JC and said nothing during it and when the other two elders said I would be disfellowshipped he shed tears. He spoke to me as I left the meeting and hugged me and wished me loads of happiness.
I knew many other really sincere and kind JW's while I was one. Oddly enough I rarely ever see any of the good ones. I've run into some of the meaner ones but I really was never close to those people either. Had I not known so many kind people I probably would have left long ago. Their kindness and caring was definately something that held me in its grip a very long time. Had I had a good husband back then I probably would have ever left it.