What do you think has been the most helpful thing you have read, heard, or learned lately? What helps you get along in a post-JW life?
I think the reason people go back to an organization that they once rejected is that they find a void and have no experience with filling it.
What do you do to make a new social life?
What do you do to fill the spiritual void? I was trying to explain my philosophy to my mom while being careful not to upset her but it is hard. JWs are trained to believe there is nothing out there for them if they leave. No hope. And of course the 'world and its people are wicked'
I think former JW's do have major trust issues. I know I have had to struggle with learning to believe and trust again in others.
If the organization were to disintegrate, I do feel for the ones who have sacrificed everything. What comfort will they find?
Another major hurdle is the belief that independent thinking is wrong and dangerous. That is drilled in JW's from infancy. This makes witnesses distrust themselves. One scripture quoted ad nauseum is the one about 'the heart is treacherous--who can know it? " and another: 'the one trusting in his own heart is stupid'. I don't have a NWT here or I would give the citation. I think one of them is Jer. 17:9
The KJV : " The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked: who can know it? --Jer 17:9
Yet the Bible also says 'Be sound in mind', and: "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."--2Tim 1:7. So according to the Bible here, when we turn to God he does give us a sound mind--one we can trust. I think the key here is turning to God and not to a man-made organization. I think you can have a closer relationship with God if you don't have an organization running interference for you. I had been programmed to believe that leaving the WT org was the same as leaving Jehovah.
It was an interesting and pleasant surprise to me when: I found that I felt closer to God when I started using the brain that God gave me.