To give you some background, I'm married, two pre-teen boys. I haven't been to meetings regularly for about a year, and not at all now for about 2 months. Previously we were all hit and miss, so it's only very recently that my boys have taken any notice. Today my husband went and took them and said word had obviously got around (I told my mother, she's faster than the internet) that I was not going, because lots of people came up to him and patted him on the back etc, and told the boys to look after him and that they were good. I can swallow all of this, but I realise I DO need to speak to my boys and explain to them why I am not going, however I am not at this point going to say it's all a lie etc etc. I am not ready to do that and dont want to totally pull the rug from under them. I just dont know how to do the conversation and would welcome any suggestions!