ITHINKISEE Update: Questions about our impending move trickle in.

by ithinkisee 24 Replies latest members private

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  ithinkisee

  There have been several people questioning our move to North Carolina. Some people have even insinuated if we are going to NC for the "right" reasons. The opportunity has not presented itself where I can ask "What reason do YOU think I am moving there for?" But it will.

  My wife received an email from a childhood friend. They were maids-of-honors for each other's weddings - that is how close they are.

  My wife's friend is one of those JWs that pioneers, works fulltime, and goes to school until she burns out. Then she crashes for awhile and blames herself and then does it again. She has done this a few times in her life.

  Anyways, she started getting all preachy with my wife via email.

  My wife said, "[friend name] asked me why we were moving to North Carolina, and what our REAL REASON was for going there. I emailed her back and said, 'To simplify our lives and to work on our spirituality.'"

  My wife then looked at me and said, "And that is not a lie, that is technically true."

  My wife then said, "[Friend Name] emailed a response back to me and said, 'Oh that's good, because with THE END so close and everything I was hoping it was for the right reasons. In that case I am really happy for you.'"

  The thing is - when my wife said the phrase "because the end is so close" she ROLLED HER EYES!

  A few moments later my wife went in our room and laid on the bed and began reading more of that book "Toxic Faith".

  Wow!

  -ithinkisee
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  Daunt

  I have been following your story with interest since you began talking about your situation. Your wife is amazingly intelligent. I have yet to meet a person that can deduce those sorts of things about the truth like her. This is an amazing story, would like to see how this comes along. Best of luck towards your wife.
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  kj

  Your wife is catching on- GOOD FOR HER! I hope you will have a great new life in NC

  kj
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  damselfly

  The thing is - when my wife said the phrase "because the end is so close" she ROLLED HER EYES!

  A few moments later my wife went in our room and laid on the bed and began reading more of that book "Toxic Faith".

  Wow!

  Wow! is right. It seems like she is going in the right direction.

  Dams
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  misspeaches

  Oh I love it when the JW's think it is their business to enquire about your motives when you are moving house or other significant issues. I think you responded really well!

  Sounds like things with your wife are going well too. She's starting to see things clearly it would appear.
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  GoingGoingGone

  Wow...! I'm impressed, and happy for you, and jealous...

  I'm getting curious about that book Toxic Faith, too!!

  GGG
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  Cygnus

  Good going ithinkisee, you've handled all this well, and so is your wife. Thousands would be jealous of the progressions the two of you have made, with keeping the lines of communication open.
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  vitty

  There is one thing I regret and that is the year before we moved (which was the best thing we did ) was that my husband was going through a bad time, stepped down, stopped going out on FS regular.

  If they find out we dont go anymore it will just reinforce all the gossip we endured at that time.

  I dont know why it bothers me it just does. It really gets to me, I wonder what theyre saying, true or untrue.

  If we had left on a high, it would have really shocked the congregation that we werent going anymore and maybe it would have got them thinking WHY. Instead they just think we are weak and materialistic

  You MUST move, its the only way to get a breather from family and friends. Once you make the break youll both be out.

  Goodluck
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  Ingenuous

  ITIS - You handled it better than I might have. You aren't obliged to explain yourselves to anyone. It takes quite a nerve for anyone to demand you justify yourselves to them.

  It also seems that there are rumors about you two going around; I can't think of any other explanation for why your wife's friend felt it necessary to find out the "real" reason for your move. This "friend" seemed to have a reason to hold back on her well-wishes; she makes the curious statement, "In that case I am really happy for you," as if there was another possibility in her mind which would cause her to not be happy for you if it had proved true.

  I hope the rumor mill doesn't ruin your fade.
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  AK - Jeff

  A few moments later my wife went in our room and laid on the bed and began reading more of that book "Toxic Faith".

  ITIS - I am surprised at the momentous speed with which your wife has come around. SHe must be working overtime to get it sorted so quickly.

  I would like to know more about the book you mention - is it worth a read?

  Jeff