I popped the big question ...

by OldSoul 22 Replies latest members private

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  OldSoul

  Nah, not that one. I've been married for years.

  After my wife said, "Well, we don't believe they have the truth anymore anyway!" in response to one of my questions, I said, "I agree. But that leaves us with a choice, doesn't it?"

  "We could (a) pretend to be Jehovah's Witnesses and go out in service telling other people to believe something we no longer believe, (b) fade away so we can continue associating with family, (c) try to stay in enough that we can wake up other family members, (d) disassociate ourselves - which would be like being disfellowshipped, or (e) be loud about the pollution we found and get ourselves disfellowshipped."

  After thinking about it for a couple of hours she just said, "Well, I'm not getting disfellowshipped and I won't disassociate myself, so that narrows it down a bit. Narrows down the choices. For me, at least."

  I really believe she is awake.

  Respectfully,
  OldSoul
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  Badger

  YEAH!
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  seven006

  Old,

  Consider yourself extremely lucky that you have a wife who has a brain and will see things as they really are.

  Personally I think she should divorce your sorry ass and join the circus to see the world. But that's just me.

  Good for you pal, the journey is only half over.

  Take care,

  Dave
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  avishai

  WAIT!! Theres always choice # roast beef on grandma's wig golf ball face!!!.

  The weird one. Go to meetings and start going totally wacky. Don't match your clothes. quote from obscure passages in "minor prophets" that have nothing to do with the issue at hand. Bring up Guys that appear in , like, one paragraph of the bible as often as possible and try and give them modern day equivalencies. Pick your nose a lot. Wear a bad wig. Douse on bad cologne. THEN fade. Trust me, their a lot less likely to look for you. My god, I think I've just come up with the best strategy ever.
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  holly

  yeah oldsoul, you could start to act weird, pretend you got dementia (double dementia if your wife wants to join you). then you can do and say things you otherwise wouldnt get away with.........and stay in.........

  or you could just leave!
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  avishai

  Shoot, If BB and his wife can both do it, you can too!!
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  Golf

  I think you should be known as, 'newsoul.' Interesting story, thanks for sharing.
  
  
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  Namasti

  God--how I wish it could have been so well-thought out and calculated and have a partner to support my decision when I left. Mine was a huge scandel and nasty DF. Lost family and all my dear friends, but God has given me triple the blessings. It would be great if you could awaken other family members, but my family members as yet has not woke up to the real truth. Until someone is truly ready, it's just not happin. Don't you want to be free to do anything you want without fear of being caught by whoever. Whether it be celebrating holidays, visiting other churches, voting, or giving blood. Just my little opinion here, but life is so much better when you don't have to sneek and hide. Total freedom is the way to go. I say. Good Luck.
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  OldSoul

  Namasti,

  Yes, I am going for freedom. I just wanted to take care of laying the groundwork first, lest some weasely, well-meaning fools win my wife's heart away from me. In order of importance on my "Wake 'Em If You Can" list:

  1) Wife. Life without her is bearable but hardly delightful. I considered this necessary.

  2) Immediate Family. Life without them would be bearable and delightful, but with them the delight would be much greater.

  3) Five Particularly Kind Souls. Friends of mine, life without them would be bearable and delightful, but with them the delight would be greater.

  4) Anyone else I can manage to reach.

  But unless shadow can provide me with scriptural proofs for the foundation of belief in a spirit-directed organization, I won't be a JW long, now that my wife is settled enough to take her leave.

  Peace,
  OldSoul
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  Namasti

  Hey OldSoul

  It seems like a great plan to me. Just curious though, how long have you been awake while still going to meetings? As I remember when I first realized that the JW did indeed not have the truth, it was a very scary time but oh so exciting. My whole world opened up to me. It was a feeling of being reborn. I was beside myself with excitment and vigor for the life ahead of me. What a precious time that was. Enjoy this time--to be mentally free even if you are physically still trying to figure out the logistics -is still a great place to be.