Even though you left the WTS...........

Sassy

What things stuck with you.......(behaviors) and what has changed about you? For instance do you think you have stuck with the same morality value, sex only with marriage?? how about language? when you left, did you find you used swear words more often? Did your morality about being honest or working hard at your job change? Entertainment? Do you care about if you watch an "R" rated movie? or how about something even more against JW standards (i.e. porn)....How about in a relationship..........did you feel as loyal? or tempted to .. explore? I find sometimes since I left that I am not sure how I feel about values that were SO IMPORTANT >>>>>>>> SO CONCRETE TO ME .. before I left..

Did any of you go through that?

Sassy

or even.......if you found you had a weeeee bit too much to drink.......would it bother you?

morty

A bit to much to drink never really botherd me sns.....As far as watching a x rated movie, no I never felt quilt .... I was raised not to be watching it, but when I had the chance to do it, i did....Yeah, I would be looking all around the theater to make sure there were no jws around...Now, the porn....ummmmh, yes I am going to keep that one under my hat..<wink-wink> Smiley Gone Wild

morty

Sassy

keep that one under that Hat??? eh?? (see how I can talk Canadian???) Morty..

to be honest I find my mouth.....more of a potty mouth......there are times I edit my own words here for fear of offending then in a quandry of finding an OK word to replace......

I just see so many things engrained in us.. a friend recently wrote me apologizing if I read her online journal for swear words.....well......we have both been raised those were WRONG.......but are they.....

there are so many things.....if I don't believe in the WTS..........then do I believe what I was taught??

tanny

i know what you guys are talkin' bout.ever since i left i've started doing things that i never could have imagined .some of them am ashamed of but somehow u juss dont care anymore.my first boyfriend was from 'outside' n we had our own share of problems.i feel i'm juss losing it sometimes coz there's nothing left to hold on to.i dont know whether any of u have experienced this,but i need help n only a few pple who have been in this situation would really understand,pliz help me out!!!

shamus

Hi tanny,

Welcome to the board!

I used to watch R rated movies anyways... as did everyone that I used to know, and still do. Hasn't changed.

Drinking wise, I still get drunk... not anymore or less than when I was in the troof. Maybe once every 2 months... no change there..

I do smoke marijuana for my depression... that's new. Oh, and I grew a beard at one point, and still have a demonic goatee.

morty

Welcome to the board Tanny.....

Your journey has just begin here......

Morty

Gadget

Welcome to the board tanny, you'll find a lot of people on here who feel a similar way. I don't think I've changed much since I stopped going to meetings, I used to do all of them things anyway! If anything I do less of them now!

Enishi

Some of my values have changed and some haven't. I no longer feel homosexuality is a sin, for instance. However, I still feel that sex before marriage is wrong (though not marriage in the sense of a formal/expensive ceremony), that being drunk and taking drugs is wrong. I almost never drink alchohol, although that's really just me. I don't think there's anything wrong with R-rated movies, but I felt that way even when I was a devout witness. I still feel that porn is degrading to women.

The one area I've completely done a 180 is spiritism. The WTS was 100% wrong about this.

Euphemism

No, my values haven't changed since I left the WTS... but I am now free to actually live by my values, instead of try to submit to someone else's.

Most of the moral restrictions of the WTS didn't make sense to me. Some of them, I felt were unbiblical; others, knew were biblical, but I had a hard time understanding why an omniscient and merciful God would impose them.

As a JW, I avoided doing anything that would actually be a judicial offense, but in the last year or two that I was a JW, that was pretty much the limit of my adherence to Witness morality.

Even though you left the WTS...........

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