UPDATE: Stepdad's JC after 25+ years......

by crazyblondeb 9 Replies latest members private

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  crazyblondeb

  Here's the original thread, that has the beginning to this:

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/161810/1.ashx

  When he went on vacation, it was found out he came back here.....to where his kids are. He never once attempted to see any of us, or his grandkids, or greatgrandkids.

  When one of my sister's found this out, she called him. Left a message on his phone...."how could you not try and see us...blah, blah".

  The next day he had his phone disconnected.

  I called his PO, to see where thing stood at this time. This is one of the very few elder's that have gained my respect. He said that he was waiting to hear from bethel.....don't know why. But he will let me know when he knows something.

  My question.......what are they waiting on from NY?? He reassured me he is taking this serious. When they met with him when he got home from his "vacation" he didn't deny anything.

  Now, I'm not only dealing with this, I'm having to help my 3 younger sisters deal with his rejection, again!!
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  stillajwexelder

  IT IS A STANDARD INSTRUCTION TO ALL BODY OF ELDERS THROUGHOUT THE WESTERN WORLD

  Whenever a case of abuse/incest etc comes up -ALWAYS contact the Legal Desk first

  They are merely following procedure
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  wednesday

  I'm guessing that due to the fact he sent you an email apologizing ( repentance sort of) and it was many yrs ago and he can't legally be held responsible, he's led a good life since( guess) . so combined with he has acknowledged and apologized, can''t be sent to prison, etc they may just let him off with private reproof. Heck they may let him retain his privileges.

  Hold on CBb. No telling what they will say.
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  crazyblondeb

  shameless bump
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  Big Tex

  My question.......what are they waiting on from NY??

  Stilla is right. It is a direct order from Brooklyn to contact Legal first. They let the lawyers make the decision about what directive to issue to the local elders regarding action. Legal researches each state's reporting laws and ramifications (read: how much money will this cost us) if the elders act or do not act. Generally speaking the idea is to minimize WTS exposure and do as little as possible.

  This is the more difficult part of dealing with this sect. It's a stacked deck. No one in that organization, well to be fair almost no one, gives a damn about helping resolve a chlid abuse matter. And most particularly an adult survivor. It is not impossible, but very, very difficult to get anything from those people. If the survivor can present video or audio, or there is a criminal case pending, the odds are the survivor might, maybe see their offender reproved. Disfellowshipping is one in a million.

  I'm sorry, I truly wish you the best, but what you're trying to do is very difficult, both to try to accomplish as well as difficult emotionally for you.

  Chris
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  LovesDubs

  Im confused...why would you say "why would you NOT try and see us..." did you WANT him to come and see you?
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  crazyblondeb

  would you say "why would you NOT try and see us..." did you WANT him to come and see you?

  Sorry, I didn't word that too well. Hell no, I don't want him in my life at all. But my younger sisters, one especially, haven't seen him in 12 years.They know this would have been the last chance to see him before something happens to him.

  For them, it's more that he didn't even make the effort.
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  Big Tex

  I really am sorry for all you're going through CBB.

  Chris
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  crazyblondeb

  Chris,

  Thanks, but you know what!?!?

  I'm in a good space right now about all of this. I got my goal achieved, that was to out him as a child molestor.

  This way, he'll never be in a position to harm another child. It has created havoc in his life. Let him get a taste of his own medicine. He used to drag us kids to elder's meetings every time we "disobeyed" him. Now the shoe is on the other foot.

  This has been a wild ride, but well worth it. At this point, yea I'd love for him to get more than a slap on the hand. But let's be reaslitic, that's more than likely not gonna happen.

  Hopefully this might help anyone going thru something like this.

  And the other good thing that came out of it: WE KNOW THERE IS A LIST!!
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  crazyblondeb

  like i said, just bumping this up for a friend.