my head vs the same old brick wall

by larrynbabies 15 Replies latest jw experiences

  • larrynbabies
    larrynbabies

    It has now been seven months since Megans passing My babies will be 1 and 1/2 yrs old in three days. It has been 3 months since the court battle over the custody of my children. 40,000.00 dollars has been spent on the trail and all proceedings. I just recieved a letter from Megans parent attorney that the want me to turn over Megans car to them. After consulting our lawyer he informed me that the closest realitives of Megan since we were not married are the babies and technicaly the car belongs to them.

    After all of the things her parents have done to me and my family and as much pain and greif they have caused me I finally got to the point that I thought it would be time for me to approach them and at least ask them if we could sit down and talk. I know Megan would have hated to see the way things have turned out and me being the father, and them being the grandparents I felt that the way things are going is not and will not be healthy for anyone of us including my children.

    I was informed by Megans aunt Peggy that Megans parents had no wish to sit down and talk and they would prefer that I not be present when they came to pick up the babies for visitation. These people do not know the meanning of forgiveness and compassion. They are so hypocritical it makes me sick. They were the ones who abducted my children and started this whole mess yet they are unwilling to even think of respecting my rights as my childrens father. I will make it a point to be there every time they come to pick up my babies and when they drop them off. If they dont have the descency or the balls to tell me to my face then they can go to hell or into limbo or wherever it is the failed jehovahs witnesses go oh yes its destruction. or being destroyed or something like that. Like not being part of the new system. Christ it sounds like a damn amway presentation.

    I dont mean to be offensive to those who dont know me but those of you who do can well understand my frustration.

    On a personal note I am still dealing with PTSD and depression I have had my medication adjusted to the point that taking my sleeping pills and going for one last drive into the garage isnt such a real possibility anymore. wooo hooo.

    I see my babies almost everyday I give them baths and they talk to me on the phone and say hello dada they are the light at the end of my tunnel and I will get there no matter what.

    Larrynbabies

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    Time to put some sugar in the car's gastank.

  • berylblue
    berylblue

    Larry, just did a brief read on some of your posts. You have been through a lot.

    I'm really dumb, though. I don't understand with whom the babies are staying. I thought they are with you? But then you said you see them every day.

    Not questioning you, mind, just my self. As I said, I am dumb.

  • Aztec
    Aztec

    Wow! You really are going through alot. Keep those babies as your focus and you won't go wrong. Remember that they are the important ones. I have a friend going through a custody case as well and I know it's a really stressfull thing. Best of luck to you!

    ~Aztec

  • Cassiline
    Cassiline
    It has now been seven months since Megans passing My babies will be 1 and 1/2 yrs old in three days. It has been 3 months since the court battle over the custody of my children. 40,000.00 dollars has been spent on the trail and all proceedings. I just recieved a letter from Megans parent attorney that the want me to turn over Megans car to them. After consulting our lawyer he informed me that the closest realitives of Megan since we were not married are the babies and technicaly the car belongs to them.

    After all of the things her parents have done to me and my family and as much pain and greif they have caused me I finally got to the point that I thought it would be time for me to approach them and at least ask them if we could sit down and talk. I know Megan would have hated to see the way things have turned out and me being the father, and them being the grandparents I felt that the way things are going is not and will not be healthy for anyone of us including my children.

    I was informed by Megans aunt Peggy that Megans parents had no wish to sit down and talk and they would prefer that I not be present when they came to pick up the babies for visitation. These people do not know the meanning of forgiveness and compassion. They are so hypocritical it makes me sick. They were the ones who abducted my children and started this whole mess yet they are unwilling to even think of respecting my rights as my childrens father. I will make it a point to be there every time they come to pick up my babies and when they drop them off. If they dont have the descency or the balls to tell me to my face then they can go to hell or into limbo or wherever it is the failed jehovahs witnesses go oh yes its destruction. or being destroyed or something like that. Like not being part of the new system. Christ it sounds like a damn amway presentation.

    I dont mean to be offensive to those who dont know me but those of you who do can well understand my frustration.

    On a personal note I am still dealing with PTSD and depression I have had my medication adjusted to the point that taking my sleeping pills and going for one last drive into the garage isnt such a real possibility anymore. wooo hooo.

    I see my babies almost everyday I give them baths and they talk to me on the phone and say hello dada they are the light at the end of my tunnel and I will get there no matter what.

    Larrynbabies

    Well, I hope things get better for you and you are able to put this behind you as well as you children's grand parents. I do hope that you are afforded more time with those babies and your son.

    Cassi

  • larrynbabies
    larrynbabies

    As a result of the custody battle and the emotional condition I have been left in I thought it best to allow Megans aunt peggy to take custody of my children untill I am better and am more able to care for my children as they should be. I know that peggy has allowed me unlimited acces to my babies and we have a full understanding that when I am back on my feet and the babies are a little older that she will turn custody of my children back over to me

  • berylblue
    berylblue

    I give you SO much credit for that. You are an honorable man. I admire you.

  • avishai
    avishai
    As a result of the custody battle and the emotional condition I have been left in I thought it best to allow Megans aunt peggy to take custody of my children untill I am better and am more able to care for my children as they should be. I know that peggy has allowed me unlimited acces to my babies and we have a full understanding that when I am back on my feet and the babies are a little older that she will turn custody of my children back over to me

    Larry, please get that in writing, notarized, thru an attorney, etc.

  • stillajwexelder
    stillajwexelder

    sadly it is one of life's truisms -- if you bang your head against a brick wall -- it is NOT the brick wall that gets hurt - I know that is no comfort - sorry

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    ((((Larry)))),

    Please heed avishai's advice, if you haven't already arranged through the Probate/Surrogate/Whatever-it's-called-in-your-state Court that Aunt Peggy has temporary vs. full/permanent guardianship of the children. Make sure that you will legally be able to take them home with you when you are able.

    outnfree

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