I used to trust everybody. I really still do give most institutions and people the benefit of the doubt although I am let down 95% of the time.
People do not seem to value the trust that other people put in them. They cast it away quite easily.
This goes for as simple a thing as trying to be somewhere when you said you would to being there for someone you have claimed as a friend when they are going through their darkest moments.
I trusted Jehovah's Witnesses both at the institutional level and personal level. This trust went clear to my bones. It was a deep felt trust. It was an all embracing trust. Maybe that is why 15 years later I'm still aching over the loss. When the trust tumbled it tumbled far.
Replacing that trust in something else I have never given much thought to putting trust in myself. I don't trust myself to change a tire or do other simple chores around the house. Others see it as laziness, but it goes deeper than that. I truly fear failure at even simple things.
I know that I need to start exercising my self esteem muscle. Reading your replies to my other 2 postings have given me much food for thought. I do need to start seeing my counselor again. Whenever I am seeing him, I am mentally healthier.
I have tried listed my accomplishments and concentrating on the good times I have had over the years but it just doesn't seem to stick.
I need to try harder I think.
I do trust Mitch. He is the only person who has always been there no matter how dark things got. I am going to make another post to introduce you all to him a bit.