Why do JW's allow wedding rings?

by Gopher 18 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    Recently we had a post where a non-JW asked what to expect at his JW's wedding.

    He was told not to expect certain things that have a pagan background such as rice-tossing or the bride throwing a corset to the virgins unmarried girls at the reception.

    But somehow wedding rings are allowed at JW weddings!

    ANY IDEA WHY?

    My theory is that the JW's hearken back to the days of the Old Testament (Hebrew Scriptures) where the bride was the man's property, much like a herd of sheep, a plot of land, or a house. The wedding ring placed on the bride's finger nowadays shows that she is "the property of" her JW husband!!

    What do you think?

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    I think you are right - the WTS views a man's women and children as his property to be used and abused in whatever way he sees fit. The occasional articles in the WATCHTOWER or AWAKE! are received with a wink and a nod by the boys in the know, they are a smokescreen to deceive the gullible. Look at their DEEDS for a clue about what they believe in their hearts - the cloaking of male abusers in their congregations, the way they vigorously pursue females accused of sexual sins as if they were the demon Lilith herself, even disfellowshipping women rape victims who they judged did not scream and fight enough and thereby "consented" to the rape, turning it into lustful fornication.

    The WTS' comments about wedding rings were always kind of lame and reeking of hypocisy - comments about how the practice of ring exchange was too widespread to do anything about. If it is wrong, how do popularity contests have any bearing on that?

  • blondie
    blondie

    Well here is the WTS explanation from 1952, 1956, 1969, and 1972. There are some hilarious statements made. (Why anniversaries and not birthdays? related question)

    *** w52 6/15 361-2 The Marriage Ceremony RINGS

    In marriage services performed by and for Jehovahs witnesses, the exchange of rings between the bride and the bridegroom is left entirely optional with those being married. In the selection of the bride for Isaac it is recognized that Rebecca accepted a hand adornment. (Gen. 24:22, 30, 53, Mo; AT) Similarly in Luke 15:22, a ring was given to the prodigal by his father on his home-coming.

    We, of course, recognize that rings are used extensively in many pagan rituals

    . This fact, however, in no wise prohibits their use in any Christian service, particularly when the Bible mentions their use with approval. It is certainly more reasonable to expect that Satan, the mimic god, copied their use from Jehovah, rather than to accept the untenable position that Jehovah copied their use from demonic heathen practices. However, if some prefer to dispense with them in their marriage service, it is their right to do so. On this point let each one feel quite free to do that which is proper and right in his own mind. A bridegroom does not wed his bride by putting a ring on her finger.

    *** w56 9/15 571 Marriage Ceremony and Requirements ***


    A wedding ring may not be customary or may be beyond ones means. The marriage estate is not everywhere symbolized by a wedding ring. It is no essential part of a marriage ceremony. Failure to give a wedding ring is not to ones discredit. Even where the wedding ring is recognized as marking a married woman and serves notice upon anyone with passionate desires, some may conscientiously object to featuring a ring in the ceremony, having in mind the pagan origin of the customary wedding ring in Christendom. In some places the marriage estate of a woman is indicated by the style of dress that she wears or the new piece that she adds to her garments. Locally this is just as effective as a finger ring, in fact more noticeable. A wedding ring amounts to nothing if there is no real tie or if the marriage tie is not respected. A passionate woman (or a man BTW) will not let a ring keep her from committing adultery. The use of a ring in a marriage ceremony should therefore be left to each ones decision according to conscience and local custom.

    *** w69 1/15 58-9 Christian Weddings Should Reflect Reasonableness ***


    Then there is the tradition of the wedding ring. A study of the subject would likely leave you confused as to the origin and meaning of the wedding ring; the claims are many, the facts muddled. Even if the Bible does not directly mention wedding rings, it is plain that Jehovahs servants could wear rings. (Job 42:11, 12; Luke 15:22) But what if people in ones land believe that a wedding ring symbolizes a couples unbroken faith, love and devotion? Christians do not attach any symbolic meaning to a wedding ring, even though they cultivate these qualities in marriage, and even if many in the world are hypocritical in claiming to manifest such. A wedding ring ensures nothing. It merely serves public notice of married estate. It is not improper for a Christian to give evidence of his or her married status by wearing a wedding ring, be it on the right hand, as in Germany, or on the left. Yet this is not a necessity where it is not a legal requirement. So the couple can decide what to do in accord with their financial situation and personal preferences.

    *** w72 1/15 63 Questions from Readers ***


    Is it proper for a Christian to wear a wedding ring?Greece.

    Many sincere Christians have asked this question out of a desire to avoid any custom of which God might disapprove. Some of the questioners know that Catholic prelate John H. Newman wrote: "The use of temples, and these dedicated to particular saints, . . . (omitted part: and ornamented on occasions with branches of trees; incense, lamps, and candles; votive offerings on recovery from illness; holy water; asylums; holydays and seasons, use of calendars, processions, blessings on the fields;) sacerdotal vestments, the tonsure, the ring in marriage, turning to the East, images at a later date, perhaps the ecclesiastical chant, and the Kyrie Eleison, are all of pagan origin, and sanctified by their adoption into the Church." (An Essay on the Development of the Christian Doctrine, 1878) While the facts prove that many of the current religious practices Newman lists definitely were adopted from pagan worship, is that true of the wedding ring?

    Actually there are conflicting ideas as to the origin of the wedding ring

    . Let us give a few examples: "Originally . . . the ring was a fetter, used to bind the captive bride." (For Richer, for Poorer) "The ring is a relatively modern substitute for the gold coin or other article of value with which a man literally purchased his wife from her father." (The Jewish Wedding Book) "The wedding ring is supposed to be of Roman origin, and to have sprung from the ancient custom of using rings in making agreements." (American Cyclopdia) "Various explanations have been given of the connection of the ring with marriage. It would appear that wedding-rings were worn by the Jews prior to Christian times."The International Cyclopaedia.

    It is thus seen that the precise origin of the wedding ring is uncertain. Even if it were a fact that pagans first used wedding rings, would that rule such out for Christians? Not necessarily. Many of todays articles of clothing and aspects of life originated in pagan lands. The present time divisions of hours, minutes and seconds are based on an early Babylonian system. Yet, there is no objection to a Christians using these time divisions, for ones doing so does not involve carrying on false religious practices.

    Of course, our concern is greater as regards the use of wedding rings, since this relates, not to minor secular matters, but to the marriage relationship, which the Christian rightly views as sacred before God. Really, the question is not so much whether wedding rings were first used by pagans but whether they were originally used as part of false religious practices and still retain such religioussignificance. As has been shown, the historical evidence does not allow for any definite conclusion on this. What does the Bible say about the use of rings?

    The Bible shows that some of Gods servants in the past wore rings, even ones that had special meaning attached to them. Wearing a signet ring could indicate that one had received authority to act in behalf of the ruler who owned it. (Gen. 41:42; Num. 31:50; Esther 8:2, 8; Job 42:11, 12; Luke 15:22) So, while wedding rings are not mentioned, these true worshipers clearly did not scruple against using rings for more than mere adornment.

    Some persons say that a wedding ring represents ones unending love and devotion in marriage. The increasing divorce rate in many lands where married persons usually wear a wedding ring proves that this meaning is more imagined than real. Nonetheless, for the majority of persons, including Christians, in lands where wedding rings are common, the ring is an outward indication that the wearer is a married person. In other localities the same point is shown in a different way, such as by a womans wearing a certain style of clothing.

    Of course, a wedding ring is by no means a Christian requirement. One Christian might decide not to wear a wedding ring, because of conscience, personal taste, cost, local custom, or some other reason. Yet another Christian might decide to indicate his married status by means of a wedding ring. Hence, in the final analysis the decision is a personal one, to be made in accord with the conscientious views one holds.
  • shera
    shera

    Because they are hyprocrites.

    What ever suits their fancy and whatever benifits them.

  • Shakita
    Shakita

    My daughter was just married and "brother officiate" asked them during the rehearsal IF they would like to exchange rings during the ceremony. Obviously, this is totally optional.

    Mrs. Shakita

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    They allow it, because for some strange reason, they do what they want to and they don't worry, the JW's will do what they are told they are allowed to do.

    If the WT told the JW's they could smoke, celebrate holidays, birthdays, and that they really couldnt be anyone conscious on these matters, I can assure you many would do these things. Maybe not all, but alot would, I would have. Oh I am such a little rebel.............hehe

    You can have a big party, a cake, with welcome baby, BEFORE , the baby is born, presents and all. But damn ,,,,,,, don't do it a week after the baby is born,,,,,,, it might be a birthday party. God, I look back now, and want to kick myself in the ass for being so blind.

  • jack2
    jack2

    Blondie, good research. To me, from what I see, the wedding ring origin and use is very similar to that of many other things, like saying 'bless you', throwing rice, or ceratin holiday commemorations, that also may have pagan origin.

    I do soemtimes speculate personally that there may be a somewhat ulterior motive involved here - if the WTS were to say, in effect, 'no rings' then I wonder if some betrayed spouse somewhere would hold them indirectly repsonsible a commited adultery. That's a big stretch, quite a reach, but who knows? I am just suspicious because they seem to single out wedding bands as okay while condemning so many other common practices, that, by the way, certainly do not make people think back to ancient pagan rituals. "Bless you" said these days, for example, does not carry the same meaning to the speaker or hearer as it did so long ago. Today, it's mainly just a way of being polite, from what I can tell.

  • JT
    JT
    The WTS' comments about wedding rings were always kind of lame and reeking of hypocisy - comments about how the practice of ring exchange was too widespread to do anything about. If it is wrong, how do popularity contests have any bearing on that

    EXCELLENT POINT

  • JT
    JT

    Because they are hyprocrites.

    What ever suits their fancy and whatever benifits them.

    ############

    BOTTOM LINE FOR IN the research material it list dozens of things , but as always in wt fashion the Boys in Writing can pick and chose what they want to impose on 6million folks

    right or wrong

  • Quotes
    Quotes

    Blondie, great research. I wish I could have found the time to look this up when my (JW) sister got married earlier this year, and was pious about not allowing activities on the "non-approved" list, yet was not concerned at all about the fact that wedding rings should, by the same reasoning, also be dis-allowed.

    The fact that wedding reings are permitted is yet another example of the hypocritical results you get when following a group of men whose "logic" rests entirely on hunting for "proofs" of a priori decisions.

    I hope you won't mind that I have used your research to add yet another page to the Quotes website:

    http://quotes.jehovahswitnesses.com/wedding_rings.htm

    ~Quotes

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