thanks again!
SPAZ - you is making me laugh...
i'm so excited i could burst!
my sibling and i have been reunited, not only irl .
please give breal a much deserved hearty welcome y'all!
thanks again!
SPAZ - you is making me laugh...
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
oh and DJ - yeah I am lucky - but if you had siblings you would realize that it like all else has its moments. I have mostly found that the people I consider "family" are all adopted friends. Perhaps you have some like that in your own life.
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
Spaz - you is gonna make me all emotional...
Maverick - I certainly hope so! I'll keep reading as I have learned a lot from everyones posts.
Rayzorblade - yep once I found this and read some other peoples stuff I felt almost normal.
Cheers & thanks again for all the welcomes
i know that many of you gave me the advice to wait until i'm done with school, but what can i say, i'm stubborn .
please share your pre-pregnancy and pregnancy tips that either made things smoother or things you wish you has done to make things easier.
i also want opinions on such things as epidurals, circumcision, nutrition, breast-feeding, money saving tips, etc.
good site for those ttc (trying to conceive)
i never wanted to go to bethel but when i was a teenager, i wondered what i would need to do to become a circuit overseer.
I did not have the correct last name to be anything special in the congregation I grew up in...so there was no point.
i am a newbie and apparently very naive.
i in reading different threads, lurkers have been mentioned.
my initial thought was "lurking" meant people like me reading for awhile and eventually posting.
hmm.. i started my intro with "lurker no more" ... i did not realize so many felt that lurkers are jw's trying to cause problems.
To clarify I read but did not post (for some of the same reasons as radiolady).... I am an ex JW for almost 10yrs...and no I was not stalking anyone & certainly NOT trying to cause problems for anyone else that may post... it amazes & disgusts me that anyone could/would cause problems for someone just by reading this stuff
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
Jgnat - good call on the name
Gopher - They did not directly call me evil - they read me scripture and inferred it pretty heavily...sorry I should have clarified.
Thank you all for your kind words!
many comments are made that jw's are actually brainwashed.
do you think this is true?
I believe timing and circumstance have a lot to do with it...
It is misleading though as they claim it is voluntary....if so why can one not leave voluntarily?
i finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured i would introduce myself.
as i mentioned in other thread i have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs.
i was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good jw's.
I finally got the courage to post on another thread - so figured I would introduce myself. As I mentioned in other thread I have been df'd for about 9-10 yrs. I was raised in the "truth" - although neither of my parents were never really stellar examples of good JW's. Starting having troubles while still in high school. Doubted some things (although I am by no means as well versed in the bible doctrines as some here) and simply started to feel never quite good enough. Attempted suicide at a young age and this was really the catalyst for me to see that something in my life was majorly wrong. So I went about trying to find happiness...
First I request help from my bookstudy conductor to find someone to study with me and attend meetings/service with as I knew according to the JW's I was "spiritually weak" - no response....fast forward about a year and I was requested to meet with the elders... this was all new to me as I had never had any run in's with anyone and so I went like a good little JW - as I posted in the other thread it did not go well - they read me a scripture about repenting...then asked for dirt on other youth in the hall... and when I refused to give them info about others or myself they read me a scripture about being evil and told me that none of my family or friends would be able to speak with me anymore.
I left home - stayed with friends until I got my own place - ended up married at after a while to a very abusive person (I was looking to belong) and got divorced within the year. Had my wild time, my sad and angry time...but I was fortunate as being so young I discovered that my "worldly" friends were my new family. Thanks to some very lovely, supportive and caring people today I am the happiest I have ever been - married to my partner of 6 or 7 years.
When I left I did not have access to internet and other than a few well intentioned people worried I needed deprogramming (which mostly meant converting to another faith)...I basically discovered all the joys and sorrows associated with having chosen a lifestyle contrary to everyone around me. I did not have any other ex JW's to speak with and until a sibling recently was df'd and mentioned finding a website a place of healing and closure I had no idea there was such forums as these.
I probably won't post much but I like to read everyone's diverse opinions on so many topics and as everyone seems to say it is very comforting in a strange way to see some of my own emotions brought to the front by others.
just reading 'in search of christian freedom' and come across this quote which seems to hit the nail on the head regarding the genuine love among the elders.:.
" whilst serving as an elder in the warrenton, virginia congregation, i went with the presiding overseer to investigate an alleged indiscretion reported by telephone from the elders of a neighboring congregation about an elderly, inactive, widowed sister, living in yet another congregations territory, taking care of a comatose old lady for her livelihood.. when we arrived, he questioned the sister about her supposed indiscretion ( the charge was based purely on conjecture ).
her reply was, "it has been over seven years since my husbands death.
been around 9 or 10 years since I was DF'd... funny thing is before I was I knew I was "spiritually weak" according to JW standards and had asked for someone to go in service with me and study with me. In hindsight I am better off for how this all turned out - but due to the lack of response (amongst other things) I simply went about my own life as no one (not family, friends or the "shepards of the flock") seemed to care. Then I got called into a meeting and instead of addressing what they perceived as wrongdoing on my part I was asked to give info on other youth in the hall...upon refusing to do so and I guess since I would not discuss my own life (not giving them any ammo as all they had was conjecture) they read me scriptures sighting how evil I was and how by taking this stance to not repent and help them clean up the hall... c'est la vie!