The thing is adultery, although wicked, is a very 'human' sin. What I mean is, it's 'natural' if you know what I mean. Whereas, threatening to kill your wife, can be overlooked. That pisses me right off!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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To OnTheWayOut...
I am dead against kids getting baptized anyway and thankfully my own son is not even publishing yet. He's on the school but is timid. Thank God!! i do not want him baptized before age 21. Then he can decide for himself.
These 'rules'.... grrr.. didn't Jesus condemn the Pharisees for making up rules?? But I'm sure you're right about the 'several years' rule. And my husband was the P.O.Congregation Coordinator too, just to add to the scandal!!!
We're F@#*ED!!! Just say it!!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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To PalmTree...
I've always believed it was the Truth and never had any doubts whatsoever. I did leave for a bit as a teen because my mom was so fanatical but it wasn't that I didn't believe. And when we got DFD we both fully intended to go back... but now, it's more for our kids and because we really don't know what else to do. We want it to be the Truth... we are so screwed if it's not, you know? Everything we've ever known revolves around the New System and Jehovah and putting the Kingdom first... I want all of you on this site to just be bad and wrong... just so that the bubble doesn't burst!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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Thanks Dozy. I am going to check that link. I don't have a lot of posts so you should be able to find out story very easily. It was definitely a big scandal. My husband was Congregation Coordinator and had been married for 18 years. It was a huge shock for everyone and I don't belittle that at all.
I don't really care about being a pariah in the congregation - I just want to make things easier for our children. The boys (his son is 15 and mine is 14) are both getting close to baptism age and once that happens they might be pressured to avoid us. Want to try to circumvent that if possible.
Thanks again.
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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You guys are funny! I want to tell them that! I am fed up!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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The thing is, I have never had any doubts about this being The Truth... until now... seeing how we've been treated. It just doesn't add up.
When my ex husband threatened to burn the house down with me in it, they did nothing to discipline him and one elder had the audacity to tell me to go back to the jerk. And yet somehow I am the leaven in the congregation that must be kept out. It's funny how that works, hey?
i was always a good little J-Dub and I would never have ventured onto one of these evil apostate sites... until now. And you know why? Cuz I was looking for support in getting reinstated. Well, let's just say they left things a little too long cuz I've been doing some reading and now I know why they don't want us on here... LOL!!!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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Geez... I'm really bad at playing these 'games'... it infuriates me that it's basically being reduced to that... A Game.
I feel guilty for even saying this but when we do attend I go over the WT and circle all the scriptures and then quickly underline the answers and scrawl a few scriptures in the columns... then I go through his magazine and do the same thing. What am I being reduced to?
But lately he has had to take double his anxiety medication just to get out the door and it's just not worth it. So, I don't really know what to do. I'm not going to put that kind of stress on him, when he's already dealing with all these abuse issues. I'm not going to leave him with the baby and go myself. And I'm not a total idiot... I am not going to try to take the baby to the meeting myself and end up in the mother's room the entire time just to play this stupid GAME.
Where do these rules for reinstatement even come from anyway? I can sort of get where the disfellowshipping arrangement comes from but for reinstatement if you clean up your life and stop the 'sinful' practices, then WTF? What about the prodigal son? His father welcomed him back and held a huge feast!
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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Yes. We were disfellowshipped in 2009 for adultery. Since then we have 'set matters straight' and are married with a 7 month old baby. We did our best to attend meetings but it has been challenging with a baby of course. When we requested reinstatement the brothers came to meet with us but didn't even take their coats off. They just said it was 'too soon' and could take 'years and years'. It was pretty obvious that one of the elders had a personal issue with my husband.
After a lot of thought I wrote that elder a letter explaining some background information. My husband was severely abused as a child and he is only recovering the memories now. He's in therapy but is a real mess so that really impacts his life and meeting attendance is affected because he has terrible anxiety and panic attacks.
Anyway, my letter was ignored. So I recently wrote another letter to one of the other elders trying to get some sort of understanding from them. No reply so far but I'm trying to be patient.
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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up
by headisspinning ini'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.
i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.
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I'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't. I'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.
Really struggling here... Thanks!
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High Profile Case: Seeking Reinstatement
by headisspinning inbut our situation is very difficult and quite high profile.... i was raised as a jw and my mother was very strict and abusive.
i got baptized at age 14.. my mother actually called on my (present) husband's mom in service.
she was on the initial call resulting in his mom coming in the truth and him being raised in it from about age 8 or 9.. despite a very abusive step-father, he followed his mom's lead and came into the truth.
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I've decided that this is not the place for me. I do appreciate the words of support so thank you for that. But I am very turned off by what goes on here and after reading about the rise of the 'concious class' I want nothing to do with this site.
I have decided that I am going to bite the bullet - if it takes years for us to be reinstated, so be it. We are going to do everything we can to regain Jehovah's favour. Whether we get back our standing in mens eyes, really should not be our focus. Our relationship with Jehovah is what matters and I have faith that He will work out the rest, even though some things are hard to understand and may even seem unfair right now.
This site is addictive but after exploring what it has to offer over the past day or so, I just have a very negative impression. It's like a car accident - you're horrified but somehow it's hard to tear your eyes away...