having never been a JW, and now being a friend of one i am very intrigued to know how this news affects her life. i am tempted to warn her of it but i think that she will get her defenses ready. i will wait and talk about it in passing with her, see her inital reaction. if she cannot handle the new 'truth' then i will be considering giving up on her - during a conversation with her the other week about her religion, i never mentioned the word 'cult', 'sect' etc. yet she still had her defenses ready and said to me three times, 'we are not brainwashed.' i never even told her i thought she was.
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THE NEWS IS BIGGER THAN DATELINE, BBC, CBC, ETC.
by AndersonsInfo inif i told you that something bigger is on the horizon than dateline, bbc, cbc, sunday (australia), and all other tv programs which exposed the sexual child abuse cover-up by watchtower in 2002-2003, would you believe me?
have i ever misled you?
i'll answer that--no!
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under74, you're right. i need an overview, i find that when i read on here and other sites there is a lot of contradiction. a lot of JW opinion derives from individual experience right? what i'm getting so far is that she will eventually not be able to be my friend anyway so don't worry about what happened with the two people giving me a leaflet and funny look.
i'm not wanting to be romantically involved with her, we had a very strong friendship when she was not actively 'into' it. we connect and have fun, we've gone from best friends, to seeing eachother once in 2 weeks for 2 hours. i cling on to people in my life, all of my friends are long term -- i value them all a lot. so to lose her because of this peculiar lifestyle and 'religion' bothers me,
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i do want to be honest. so if i tell her that i will not ever become a jw, she will cut me out right? i just don't want to lose her friendship. what would you do in my situation?
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ah - but i've just remembered. i do have some leaflets, my friend does think i have a quiet interest (which i really do not), would that be justifiable for her?
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yep -- user error, i explained it on the other thread.
sorry
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i pressed enter, oops.
will try again.
have i done wrong? a month or so ago i posted here about my friend who has been a JW since birth, had a bad year and became my friend, i am not a JW, and now she has gone back to it 100%. she maintains our friendship and people on this site advised me it will be difficult for her and she may not be as close as before.
i am finding that i don't see much of her cos she's always off door knocking or bible studying, she is quite open about it, says she wants to be my friend etc. but i am no fool, she probably doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
now...yesterday i was walking down the street and 2 JW's stopped me and gave me a leaflet. instead of just taking it with me, i looked at it, said are you JW's? they said yes and i said oh well my friend is one, they wanted to know the name of my friend and i just responded by saying well i'm late for work but its ok i've got all your leaflets. was that rude?
thing is i recognized one and i think she knew who i was, not too sure, she maybe saw me 6 months ago with my friend. they both looked at me really weird. i'm worried that i'll get my friend in trouble for being my friend.
also, i am having doubts about all this, i generally behave myself when i'm around my friend not cursing etc, but i feel like i should be myself and see what she does with it.
help, i'm a bit confused.
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i think i did something wrong.
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i think i did something wrong.
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not sure what think...
by apple78 ini hope someone can help me decide what i should think.. i have a friend who has always been a jw, i am not nor ever will be one.
when we became friends she was rejecting it all in a way and didn't care about it.
she has gone full circle and is trying very very hard to be a good jw, this has involved her changing many aspects of her life.. what i want to know is this: is she ok being a friend of mine?
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Thank you all so much for your answers. There have been two occasions where its been brought up. A month or two ago I asked her outright 'am i allowed to be your friend' She said 'yes' but quickly moved on. Second was we agreed we'd be friends for life.
Its so sad to think she may end up stopping being my close friend, but I'm glad I'm prepared.
I am trying to look open minded about it all, be supportive and understand. I feel I have been there for her a few times when she needed a friend, I hope she isn't maintaining this friendship with me just to stop her from feeling guilty about using me when she needed a friend like me.
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not sure what think...
by apple78 ini hope someone can help me decide what i should think.. i have a friend who has always been a jw, i am not nor ever will be one.
when we became friends she was rejecting it all in a way and didn't care about it.
she has gone full circle and is trying very very hard to be a good jw, this has involved her changing many aspects of her life.. what i want to know is this: is she ok being a friend of mine?
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I hope someone can help me decide what I should think.
I have a friend who has always been a JW, I am not nor ever will be one. When we became friends she was rejecting it all in a way and didn't care about it. She has gone full circle and is trying very very hard to be a good JW, this has involved her changing many aspects of her life.
What i want to know is this: is she ok being a friend of mine? is she putting herself in a position by doing so? I read and hear so much I am confused, I hear that it is wrong to be friends with non JW's, but then I hear it doesn't matter. I am being supportive of her and she never tries to tell me 'stuff' about it. I just would rather know now in order to expect a sudden disappearance.