I can totally relate Nosferatu. Being raised with fear is not a pleasant. I was always a model child, and everyone could only say good things about my behaviour, but I was unhappy most of the times.
The thing is, part of growing up is making mistakes. Sure, parents can make a kid wonderfully behaved by micromanaging and controlling everything the kid does. But that kid is not only going to be unhappy, but is also going to lose out on some major life lessons, which they're going to have to make up for sooner or later.
Euphemism,
What you said is so true. I now realize how much I have to learn now because of the way I was raised. Sometimes it just makes me so mad the amount of damage this does, and to think I know of some parents who are even more controlling.