I was pretty much raised on my own beliefs, no one enforced anything on me except to always be a good person and do good. I am now engaged to an ex jw and have experienced alot just through meeting him. I felt kind of funny joining this group but he encouraged me to do it because there are a lot of questions i have that he can't answer. His family doing the whole shunning thing really got to me at first. But now, reading everyone else's experiences has really helped both of us.