Hey Upside/down! You were in one bad ass congregation!
Much the same happened in the congs we were in.
In that last one, none of the kids were allowed to play with our children.as we were bad associations. I say this even though we had never done anything wrong in the JW sense of the word and were pretty normal dubs as afar as that goes. My kids, thank God, had more sense than to let this bother them. So when my mother invited the twins to the meeting the other Sunday I explained to her in my most bluntest worldly manner where she could stuff her meeting! She'll get over it! She's resilient enough!
As for the end result of the cliques - always in fighting. We were different in the way we acted and didn't allow their behaviour to bother us too much but I tended to have to listen to all the bitching sister elders wife X was doing about sister elders wife W. etc. Maybe when they tell you too much they hate you for knowing all their sordid secrets. But i won't tell no one!