"Reasoning with the Sisters"

by sawthelight 3 Replies latest jw friends

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  sawthelight

  A new publication is now available. It's called "Reasoning with the
  > > > Sisters".
  > > >
  > > > Single brothers are encouraged to read and apply.
  > > >
  > > > Reasoning With The Sisters Introductions . . .
  > > >
  > > > CURRENT EVENTS
  > > > "Good evening. My name is ---- ----. I'm a brother from (name
  > > > congregation). Did you see the TV news last night? . . . That report
  on
  > > > (mention some current item of concern, but don't talk about cars or
  > > > sports), what you think about it? . . . It is not unusual for sisters
  to
  > > be
  > > > concerned about these issues, but I believe that we are living in a
  time
  > > > when we should be getting to know each other better." (Ask her to go
  > out
  > > > witnessing.)
  > > >
  > > > LOVE/KINDNESS
  > > > "I have found many sisters are quite concerned about the lack of
  > > > available brothers in the surrounding congregations. Do you feel
  that
  > > way
  > > > too? Why do you think this is the trend? . .Did you know that I
  > > > was interested in you? " (Explain the reason why.)
  > > >
  > > > WHEN SISTERS SAY: "I'M BUSY"
  > > > "Hi. My name is ---- ----. I wanted to discuss with you how we can
  get
  > > to
  > > > know each other better. But I can see that you are busy (or about to g
  o
  > > > home).
  > > > May we get together for lunch on Saturday after field service and
  > > discuss
  > > > it further?
  > > >
  > > > How You Might Respond To Potential Conversation Stoppers .
  > > >
  > > > "I'M NOT INTERESTED"
  > > > "May I ask, do you mean that you are not interested in me or is it
  > > > brothers in general that don't interest you? I ask that because I
  have
  > > met
  > > > many sisters who at one time were interested in brothers, but aren't
  > > anymore
  > > > because they think brothers are hypocritical (or they feel brothers
  are
  > > > chauvinistic; or they feel brothers today are not spiritual enough,
  > > etc.).
  > > > I don't approve of such attitudes myself and if you get to know me I
  > > believe
  > > > we could both look to the future with confidence.
  > > >
  > > > OR
  > > >
  > > > If you mean that you're not interested in having another boyfriend,
  I
  > > can
  > > > understand that. But more likely you are interested in your future.
  Can
  > > you
  > > > see any prospect for a relationship in the future?
  > > >
  > > > OR
  > > >
  > > > Is that because you already have a boyfriend? . . . Tell me, do you
  > > think
  > > > you will ever see a time when it will work out? . . . What seems to
  > stand
  > > > in the way?
  > > >
  > > > "I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"
  > > > Many sisters tell me that. Have you ever wondered why brothers
  like
  > > > myself keep trying, even though sisters generally may not be
  interested?
  > > >
  > > > OR
  > > >
  > > > I can appreciate that, because I used to feel the same way about a
  > > sister.
  > > > But, just to be fair, I decided to listen to her. And I found out
  that
  > I
  > > > hadn't been told the truth about her. Now we are good friends.
  > > >
  > > > OTHER TIPS:
  > > > Keeping good records is the key to following up and developing a
  study
  > > of
  > > > each other in the future. Never ask if she got a chance to read the
  > > letters
  > > > you wrote, instead, ask if she had any questions. Always mention
  > that
  > > > she could make a voluntary donation of time spent with you. Be sure
  > to
  > > > make definite arrangements to get together again...naming the date and
  > > time.
  > > > And remember, give HER the chance to accept or refuse...we cannot
  > > > pre-judge.
  > > >
  > > > Finally, if she refuses, it is not you that is being rejected,
  rather,
  > > it
  > > > is your message of commitment.
  > > >
  > > > COMING SOON -- Insight On The Sisters. . .already seven volumes,
  and
  >
  > > > continuing to grow.
  > > >
  > > > o Sisters - what happens to us when they cry?
  > > > o Knowledge that leads to an everlasting Wife.
  > > > o Questions Old People Ask, Answers They Forget
  > > >
  > > > & for you parents...
  > > >
  > > > o Your Youths - Getting the most out of them.
• 

  GinnyTosken

  See also:

  "Reasoning With the Sisters"
  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=6403&site=3#107877
• 

  alliwannadoislive

  clever ginny - you a time traveller ? ... this was actually quite funny btw ...
• 

  Francois

  No, no, no. Those will never do.

  Here's something lots better.

  To sister in question: "I think that nice guys always come last...no matter how long it takes. And did I tell you I have the most interesting, cute little bump on the end of my tongue about the size of a pencil eraser?"

  Then, you just let her imagination do the rest.

  FT