How Long Should One Wait Before Remarriage?

by minimus 33 Replies latest jw friends

  • minimus
    minimus

    ....especially if the mate had died?

    Is there a certain amount of time a person "should" wait before they remarry, either because of divorce or due to death?

  • stillajwexelder
    stillajwexelder

    Great question. "Till Death us do part"

    If somebody is terribly lonely after the death of a lifelong spouse and meets somebody within a month or two and they are both older and want to marry - why not. It is not anybdoy else's business. I know it offended my mother when very good friends - wife died and husband remarried in under 6 months - but hell - why not. My mother was wrong to be offended

  • blondie
    blondie

    I would say that it differs from person to person. Second, third, fourth marriages after a divorce statistically don't tend to last as long.

  • junctions-wife
    junctions-wife

    My uncle lost his wife back in 99 and got remarried in 2001. I think it all depends on the person. Me, I'll never marry again.

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    You should wait until your dead.....That will keep you from making the same frigg`n mistake twice!

    Laughing Mutley..OUTLAW

  • Casper
    Casper

    I have been widowed twice, both times I was advised by my therapist, to wait at least a year before beginning a new relationship. I have to say, that was the best advice I had ever received.

    During the first year, a person is grieving and not really able to make rational decisions, due to loneliness they may jump into the first relationship that comes along without really seeing things as they are.

    For me, at the end of the first year, I was able to look back on a few things and Thank, someone or something (?) that I had waited.... otherwise it would have been a disaster.

    This applies not only to relationships, but also financial decisions, include selling or buying a new home... alot of regrets can be made during that time period.

    Cas

  • Finally-Free
    Finally-Free

    I thought I might re-marry, but once I was on my own for 2 years I decided I liked it this way. I won't be getting remarried.

    W

  • oompa
    oompa

    Dr Laura says never do a rebound...wait two years....i disagree but the premise is good. my grandpa remarried after his wife died in just six month and had a happy marriage of 30 plus years afterward....if you are not a jw....i say any ended relationship could resume in six month, but NEVER remarry (not a jw option)....i would like to just develop a relationship and let it grow..yes gfwb.....without need for a piece of paper....oompa

  • minimus
    minimus

    Someone should tell that Peterson guy. His wives suddenly die or vanish and he just gets remarried like nothing was unusual.

  • wobble
    wobble

    I think I'll get married after six months,just got to get rid of the Wife first.

    Love

    Wobble

  • John Doe
    John Doe

    "Should" is such a troublesome and bs filled word.

  • Bubblie
    Bubblie

    I don't think I will remarry. If I find someone, would try living together, maybe but not even that for quite a few years. Men seem to be able to move on faster, but not wiser.

    Kit

  • CoonDawg
    CoonDawg

    I got remarried about 4 weeks after my divorce was final. My father in law got remarried about a year or so after his wife had passed away. Just depends on the individual and thier state of mind at the time.

  • Awakened at Gilead
    Awakened at Gilead

    I'm engaged... divorce was final in November...

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    10 minutes.

    S

  • flipper
    flipper

    I guess it depends on how deep the relationship was with the divorced or deceased spouse on how soon someone grieves over the divorce or death and can move on. Whether someone goes through a divorce or death with a spouse it is 2 of the most stressful things that can happen in your life - so many times it's a good thing to let your emotions grieve and catch up to your mind so as Casper said - you can think clearly. So it varies . I'd say a year or so at least in most general situations . But that is not etched in stone for everybody. Peace out, Mr. Flipper

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    As long as you aren't hurting someone else, you should live your life in the way that suits you.

    Why remarry at all? Why not revel in sweet, delicious sin?

  • noni1974
    noni1974

    My grandpa remarried within 6 months of my grandma dying. He got divorced a little over 2 years later. He was deleted as an elder because he divorced her. She didn't speak very good english and was abusive. She alinated everyone in my family from him. She threw away pictures of all of his kids and grand kids that had hung on the walls of his house for years. I personally found my second grade picture in the trash behind thier house. I took my picture and I still have it.

    My grandpa died almost 2 years ago. Sad but he never really was close to his family again even after he divorced her. She did that much damage.

  • beksbks
    beksbks

    Until the one remarrying is sure it is for love, and not to fill a void.

  • John Doe
    John Doe
    Until the one remarrying is sure it is for love, and not to fill a void.

    There you go again with your silly ideals. Here you imply that love does not fill a void. Interesting.

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