Some single older women in bad circumstances

by LongHairGal 53 Replies latest jw friends

  • LongHairGal

    I am saddened and angry to observe the pitiful situation some of my JW single female friends are in. They are over 40 and have little work record, hardly any money and in some instances compromised health issues.

    I am angry because these women were waiting for armageddon to come and save them. Well, it isn't here yet and still they have to eat and pay bills. Do I really have a right to be angry though? I think I do. Let me explain. In the religion, there is no regard for the fact that a woman has a small window of time to get educated, get a career, etc. While I do realize that some married women have gotten a horrible deal, generally speaking they come out of a marriage with some assets.

    These single women were seduced into pioneering when they were young and should have been getting educated to get a decent paying job. They were also 'conned' into doing favors for various people in the congregation. I am talking about doing favors practically all the time, not just once in a while. In many instances they did favors for the elderly. You might say this sounds wonderful, but what about these young women's futures? Who is going to support them? Are the elderly ladies they helped going to leave their assets to them? Unlikely. In many instances these elderly are leaving their assets to the religion. The problem is that the clock is ticking. Then one day these women wake up single, middle aged and poor. Is the religion going to support them? Nope.


  • Finally-Free

    In some of the halls I was in the women outnumbered the men by as much as 2-1, so their prospects of getting married to a JW were slim. Many of those who managed to find husbands found themselves saddled with idiots. There were a lot of single sisters™ over 40 in the 3 halls I went to. The younger sisters™ felt compelled to pioneer™ right out of high school, as that was the only way a brother™ would give them a second glance. We also had a few older brothers™, in their seventies, going after the young women - provided they were under 30. The sad thing was some of these women married these old guys. It was either that or the possibility of remaining single for an entire life.

    On a lighter note, it always saddened me to see so many hot women not having sex. What a waste! I really wish I could have helped them...


  • Witness 007
    Witness 007

    That doesn't sound fair at can give and give but nothing is going to be enough.

  • flipper

    LONG HAIR GAL- Good thread ! It is true that the Watchtower society is mainly concerned with taking from it's members- including these women you mention. It is rougher on them as they have given out too much in their earlier years- but got nothing in return for their trouble , but a sore back, health problems , and no support from a loving man or husband to assist them with bills, health issues, or even emotional companionship. The JW men were too busy " reaching out" for positions in the congregations . Or - chasing after women who could be their granddaughters . I hear you. I feel for these women too. Peace out, Mr. Flipper

  • snowbird

    On a lighter note, it always saddened me to see so many hot women not having sex. What a waste! I really wish I could have helped them...


    Statements like the above is what I had in mind when I responded on the thread about words mattering on JWD.


  • seawolf
    On a lighter note, it always saddened me to see so many hot women not having sex. What a waste! I really wish I could have helped them...

    Well, if it's any consolation to all the hot women that didn't have sex at the hall, the Bible says that thinking about them in an impure way is the same as having sex with them (or some sort of crap like that....the religious grey matter area of my mind is so fried from so much religious crap that feels like it got baked from too much smack..i think all the neurons are dead) that i had sex with all of them numbering into the tens of thousands.

  • oompa

    I so hate this aspect of our faith...and for both sexes but more so the women...Let me tell you, when I married my current wife she was 38, hot and never been married....a born in with few brothers around. I hate to say it, but she make me feel like a night in shining armor who whisked her out of a horrible danger a the last moment.....and her poor old mom was soooooo overjoyed. She did not say it directly say it, but the mom let me know that she was so afraid her daughter was NEVER going to get married.....I was like a saint to her...........oompa

  • Jim_TX

    Well... it goes beyond that. I grew up in a household of 6 kiddos. 3 sisters and 2 brothers. They were all going to wait for armageddon to start their families. YIKES!!!

    I knew that wasn't for me. When I turned 21 - I left home. A few years later... like about 10 or so... my younger brother left home and got married.

    The rest of my siblings stayed. 2 died of old age (or cancer). What is left is one younger brother (now getting close to 50 years old), and an older sister (nearing 65, I'd say).

    Still single... grey... and still waiting for Armageddon. Any day now. Real soon. Just around the corner... and THEN they can begin their lives.


    Jim TX

  • Hope4Others

    Well I think we've all played the "Happy Helpful Sister" part....what we know is a shame to look back

    and then become angry all over again..I try to keep looking forward to now just for that sake. But I do wish

    I would have furthered the career idea.


  • Shawn10538

    A sister I knew was 35 and married an elder of 75. Man was he an elder!

  • observador

    This thing of waiting for Armageddon is not only for women.

    I have known many more cases than I can count right now. One of the sisters in my Hall, hot, blue eyes, was waiting for a prince. Got an idiot; and both decided that wanted perfect kids in Paradise. Now, she's beyond the age to conceive any.

    Another, outspoken, smart, hot as hell, must be still virgin, is waiting for Armagedon until this day.

    And not to mention my brother: Recently kicked out of Bethel, 41, has never felt/smelled/tasted woman's stuff, no trade, has thrown out the window the best of his adult man's life.

    Friends, if this religion is not a waste of time and energy, I don't know what it is.


  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    Sad but true observation.

  • llbh

    True for women many women sadly and JW women in particular. Men do have to recognise the roles that women play and encourage them to aquire skills.

    Contrast those places in the west like Scandanavia, with repressive regimes in the middle east. I know that a society that values and encourages all to be educated is a far better place to reside

    Regards David

  • Awakened at Gilead
    Awakened at Gilead

    Very sad. I agree.

    At the least they should wake up to the falsehood of JWdom. If they don't, well maybe armageddon'll be here soon. Where is that guy?

  • Layla33

    I so understand your anger and frustration. I have a female cousin who is the same age as I am. She never married, has no plans to get married, never went to college, the most she has done is admin work. I am quite disgusted by the fact that the WTS does not see fit to make sure their aged are taken care of; with all their "not apart of the world". Armeggadon has not come and these people will be forced to face life in poverty.


    ..Saint Oompa..Halo 2..Question Mark 3Question Mark 3Question Mark 3....................Laughing Mutley...OUTLAW

  • edmond dantes
    edmond dantes

    You know it never ceases to amaze me how women and men for that matter will throw away hard won freedoms for belief in crazy religions like the Witlesses.All through history people have had to fight for freeedoms many have given the ultimate sacrifice and yet in this day and age men and women will follow blindly the ravings of religious fanatics who think nothing of enslaving other human beings.

    Not only do I find it amazing it makes me so angry. Liberty and freedom is what we all need not other so called leaders walking all over us and benefiting from all our years of hard slavery.

  • mind my own
    mind my own

    I'm with you Longhairgal!! What a horrible sitation to be in. I feel for these misguided women!


  • still_in74
    it always saddened me to see so many hot women not having sex. What a waste! I really wish I could have helped them

    Finally-free, your kind, altruistic, unselfish love for your sisters is heartwarming, if only I could help them all too!

    As for this thread - I know so many in this boat. So many. Its exactly as you say - Pioneered, no men, waiting for Armageddon, spinsterhood.

  • oompa

    Yeah OUTLAW....Saint Oompa....wish you could ask her mom for for yourself....since she is in heaven!.....oompa

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