sir82 - Apology accepted. I wish I could take all three post and edit them into one story so it would not be so confusing to readers. I apologize for that and for snapping at you earlier. You were just trying to help.
Dubstepped - You are right. I did the "trick" in the beginning and should not have. I was scared. You are also right that I can or can't tell people what they can post in response to you. So far, I've found this place to be very supportive and the people wonderful.
Yes, I'm reeling, but I'm MUCH better since communicating with this group. Everyone has given me a lot of insights.
I'm looking for someone in the area from this list in Arleta in case she needs support. She has no one to turn to if she ever wants to leave JW or him.
Yes, I'm angry at him and his family for enabling what is considered sinful behavior; however, I'm not going to out them. That would be inappropriate. I wanted to better understand what would happen if someone found out. It sounds too much like what I've experienced - no communication with a loved one, etc - and I would not wish that on my worst enemy. it is simply too painful and cruel.
I did not withhold her identification from her. She didn't think through the plan to leave. If she had, identification would've been the first thing she packed. I never said she was kidnapped. She left of her own "free will." To quote freedomofmind.com, "Undue influence is any act of persuasion that overcomes the free will and judgment of another person. People can be unduly influence by deception, flattery, trickery.........." I truly don't know if she left of her own free will or not. All of this is totally out of character for her.
Yes, I'm sure there is more to this story - there isn't just two sides to a story. There are several. Plus, the truth is based on a person's perception. That perception is based on each person's unique experiences. I'm telling my side of the story to learn how to handle the latest news tthat she is studying to be a Witness.
My big lesson as been "let go of the rope." I'm letting go. Please look at it through my lenses: She was going to leave the nest this year in June. The entire family was preparing for that day and the future. Then, she wakes me up, tells us she is leaving and then she is gone. It didn't just impact me. I've watching how it is impacting my mother and two sons. Her brothers who also lost their dad last year. Now, they've "lost" their sister. She was close to them.
I apologize if you considered my language was "loaded" - I was (and still am) in pain. I don't mind constructive feedback/specific questions to gather a better understanding. I'm still processing everything.
Regarding the insinuation that there is a lot of drama in my home, it was rather boring until now. I believe the "why" is part depressed teenager from losses, part rebellion teenager, and part teenager easily influenced. If having family rules and values is considered "controlling" them, then I'm guilty.
I agree that the only thing I can TOTALLY control is my emotions. And I sooooo appreciate this group helping to calm me down.