@MeanMrMustard
What a thoughtful and honest message — thank you for sharing it. I deeply appreciate your willingness to enter into this kind of dialogue, especially when the subject touches on personal experience, parenting, and the sincere search for what is true. And I truly respect the care you and your wife have taken in how you've raised your daughter — to think, to question, and not to accept things blindly. That’s not something I would ever criticize. In fact, I think many Christians, including myself, would say that real faith must never be blind.
Your story about your daughter at the church event was vivid and actually quite moving. That “wtf face” — I can see it. Children are remarkably perceptive, and they know when something feels off or deeply unfamiliar. And when it comes to the Christian story — the idea of a God who becomes man, who dies on a cross, who speaks of forgiveness through blood — I’ll be the first to admit: if we’re not already steeped in the framework, it’s going to sound really strange. It’s not intuitive. It's certainly not obvious. And, to be honest, if someone doesn’t already believe in the depth of human brokenness or the need for grace, the whole concept of “ransom” can feel like some weird cosmic drama. Why not just forgive, right?
So, to your daughter’s honest reaction — yes, that makes complete sense to me.
And to your larger point: Does someone really need a theological degree — or Thomistic metaphysics — to be saved? Of course not. Salvation is not a vocabulary exam. Jesus didn’t say, “Blessed are the philosophers,” but “Blessed are the poor in spirit.”
You’re right to sense that I believe grace is key. The heart of the Christian claim — at least as I understand and try to live it — is not that God gives us a puzzle and says, “Figure me out or else,” but that God meets us before we understand. He moves first. Any true knowledge of Him is already a gift.
But here’s where I’d offer a gentle clarification to your concern. When I talk about the need to believe “in the Trinity,” I don’t mean someone has to start with that or understand it fully. What I’m saying is this: if God is Trinity — if He has revealed Himself through Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit — then saving faith, even if undeveloped, must at least be open to the real God as He is. Not closed off to Him because His nature doesn’t fit our expectations or logic.
That means someone might trust God sincerely, even without yet knowing or grasping His triune nature, and still be within the reach of His grace. I’m not God — I don’t know how He judges hearts. But what I do know is that if someone knowingly rejects the God revealed in Christ — after really encountering that revelation — then it’s not a matter of ignorance or simplicity anymore. It’s a rejection of relationship.
You said something very insightful:
“There was a different meaning to them [the words]. It occurred to me then that the amount of groundwork needed to even begin to accept and believe is immense.”
I think that’s both true and not the full story. Yes, the Christian vision is layered — it has developed over centuries, it uses dense language, and the Church has had to be very precise in order to protect its truths from being twisted. But at its core, Christianity is not a philosophy — it’s a person. Christ. You don’t need to be able to articulate the “hypostatic union” to encounter Him. You don’t need to understand consubstantiality to say “yes” to love, to mercy, to truth.
The early Church didn’t "invent" the Trinity to confuse people. It developed that language to protect the encounter that people were already having — with the Father through the Son in the Holy Spirit. So yes, terms like “essence,” “person,” and “nature” can feel cold or academic, but they came from lived experience of a divine mystery that Christians were trying not to misunderstand or misrepresent.
Let me return to your daughter for a moment. She had questions, and that’s beautiful. That’s where all real theology begins — not with answers, but with wonder and puzzlement. I’d never want her to feel like she has to “catch up” or fake belief to belong. God doesn’t ask us to suspend reason or pretend. What He asks — if Christianity is true — is trust, a willingness to walk toward the light even when we don’t see the whole path.
So no, I don’t believe the average person needs dead languages or a metaphysics course to be saved. But I do think that when someone says, “Tell me more about who God really is,” the Church has a responsibility to speak as clearly, faithfully, and intelligibly as it can. That’s why I use those technical terms — not because I think they save, but because they help preserve the truth of the God who does.
And to your final point — yes, grace is the beginning of all true faith. And if your daughter one day becomes curious not just about the words, but the Word — the person of Jesus — I hope there are Christians in her life who won’t just hand her a pamphlet or a dogma, but who will walk with her, listen, and show her that Christianity is not a system, but a love story. And if she keeps asking “Why?”, I hope they’ll say, “That’s a holy question. Let’s ask it together.”
Thanks again for such a thoughtful and respectful conversation. I’d love to continue it anytime.